when you want to confess your love, a bunch of question arises in your head (like "is it mutual?). Even if you remember each of your common moments, you will not be able to determine for sure, since you can only understand this over time. if you are afraid of being rejected, then it is generally better not to confess your love, if you are not sure of reciprocity.
I have a very good example of an unsuccessful confession. my friend talked with a girl from the 1st grade. they had very good friendships, but in the 10th grade he decided to confess his love to her. and now? 4 years have passed, but they do not communicate.
Because then you admit, then you say directly that you are dependent on this person. You are afraid that you are showing your weakness, and you are afraid that a person will take advantage of the situation and will start to use you. Therefore, when you confess your feelings, you must absolutely trust the person. But trust is a very fragile matter. I never said directly and seriously that I love. Although I wanted to once, but I was afraid that I would be left alone and this person would hurt me. In the end, I have no regrets. But this is everyone's choice.
Because by confessing to someone in high feelings, you automatically declare, in fact, that you are at the mercy of the objects of your orders. And the moment of recognition is perceived as a point of no return, because someone else decides your further fate.
To make it a little clearer: here you have a loaded pistol, and you pass it to ANOTHER PERSON. And you yourself put his hand to your temple. At the same time, you are in no way able to influence the further behavior of this person. Therefore, it is easier for us to talk about our love to the family, close ones: here there is mutual trust.
P.S. I never really understood this whole tragedy with a broken heart, and why people take refusal so hard. Hey, there are no irreplaceable ones, and the gun to your temple or heart is nothing more than a play of your imagination, clouded by the play of hormones. Go ahead, people.
Why is anyone afraid of heights, darkness, etc.? It's the same story. I know people to whom confessing love is the easiest task.
Most likely, those who want to confess are afraid to see an unpleasant reaction. "What if she just makes fun of me? It's a nightmare. What can I do then ?! Shame."