Why am I not getting smarter and more experienced? I'm 20. Although I'm constantly trying new things, I read books and learn. They always tell me to take off my rose-colored glasses and grow wiser for many years.

Why am I not getting smarter and more experienced? I'm 20. Although I'm constantly trying new things, I read books and learn. They always tell me to take off my rose-colored glasses and grow wiser for many years.

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Answer 1
January, 2021

Perhaps the whole point is that you are not doing what you need. Ask yourself what you would like to do, what interests you in life. On the Internet, you will find many tests that will help you determine your interests. There are also many techniques for developing thinking. Develop, do not stand still.

Perhaps so!

Good luck!

Answer 2
January, 2021

Everyone develops in their own way. And it's not about how many books you've read and how many new things you've tried.) It's about your awareness that you are smarter than you were a year ago, for example, because you already look at past situations and problems differently, you perceive them differently. Every year it will seem to you that you are smarter than you were yesterday)) And you do not need to chase to be smarter and more experienced! Everything will come with age!) Live for your pleasure, enjoy something new, do not focus attention on all this! ) Everything has its time!)

Answer 3
January, 2021

Perhaps the whole point is that you are not doing what you need. Ask yourself what you would like to do, what interests you in life. On the Internet, you will find many tests that will help you determine your interests. There are also many techniques for developing thinking. Develop, do not stand still.

Answer 4
January, 2021

You see the world from the best side, without losing the visibility of the bad sides. There is nothing wrong with that, quite the contrary. There are few such people, I am even more than sure that many are simply jealous.

Answer 5
January, 2021

There is a small subjective theory in this regard. Reading books, education and new information makes a person more intelligent and educated, but this will only be theoretical knowledge. As you know, wisdom is a body of knowledge and experience. The phrase about rose-colored glasses usually implies naivety, innocence, perhaps even kindness. That the world seems better than it is, that people seem to be better, that dreams look profitable, and hopes will certainly justify themselves. And after all, it would seem, to have in your eyes and thoughts the hope that there is still something good in the world, life and people is not so bad, but even vice versa, but surrounded by skeptics will most likely be burdened with endless haughty looks and other people's beliefs about how "you are young, stupid, and naive." And the theory is that people do not grow up with age and years (there are also cheerful and quite cheerful old people), but with the experienced disappointments, the collapse of hopes. For example, children in orphanages or dysfunctional families grow up earlier, because earlier they stop believing in a miracle that someone will come and take them, or that parents will stop drinking or other things. Other people, probably the majority of them, stop believing in the justice of the world and in the fact that all their undertakings will be crowned with success, after an unsuccessful first love and a broken heart after that. Or after the death of loved ones. In general, there are many irrevocable options. In other words, experience, disappointment, despair take off those very rose-colored glasses, after which a person begins to think more rationally, and sometimes even pessimistic or with a grain of salt. Here is such a theory. But I want to add that you don't need to consider yourself less mature: no one speaks, I think that you do not believe, for example, in death and consider all people to be good. You just do not consider all people to be bad - as long as you have this hope, you will have such a view of the world, and there is nothing bad or condemnatory in it. It is customary for children not to tell the truth about Santa Claus for as long as possible, for example. It is believed that they will find out anyway, they will be disappointed anyway, so let them stay in this sweet ignorance longer, because it is during this period that the most violent and vivid fantasies and dreams are when you believe in a miracle and allow it. Disappointed and finding out the truth, they will never return it. So you are not in a hurry to grow up: it is most likely that this will happen sooner or later, so there is no need to rush, but you can only be glad for you that you have a feeling of hope and faith in good inside you.

Answer 6
January, 2021

Move away from your parents and go to work. If you are studying full-time, then work on weekends or in the evenings. Learn to handle money, plan, budget. A lot of everyday problems and questions will immediately arise. When you think: "What will I eat today?", "How to pay for the room?", "When will I have time to prepare for the seminar?" you definitely don't think about rose-colored glasses. It is better to choose a job with people: communicate, find out who works where, who does what. You get to know people from different sides, you will come across both boors and outright bastards. You can get a job in a large company (there are companies focused on a young team, students, with a free schedule) - there communicate with colleagues as much as possible. Another good way - go volunteer: help lonely old people, disabled children, orphans, people without a fixed abode. Set up a volunteer interrogator. Have a tremendous emotional experience, mostly negative. It will change you and make you more mature.

Answer 7
January, 2021

Just spit on the opinions of others, those who are advised to take off some glasses. Rose-colored glasses dissolve by themselves in the eyes after years. Actually, by the age of 40, a person is gaining enough to consider himself smart.

Answer 8
January, 2021

When you're 70, they'll keep saying the same thing. And you will also wonder how stupid you were in 60.

You become both smarter and more experienced, just until it is so noticeable. Be attentive to life, learn it and grow to at least 25.

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