What to do if a drunken father constantly climbs to fight with me at night and brings me to tears?

What to do if a drunken father constantly climbs to fight with me at night and brings me to tears?

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answers (4)

Answer 1
January, 2021

Read carefully, this is IMPORTANT!

Understand that if your father drinks frequently, then this is a sign of illness, not its coming. Alcohol causes a very wild addiction, called addiction, it cannot be compared with anything, except with a lack of oxygen, but only in a slightly different form. It's just impossible to get rid of alcoholism in this way (you need to have greater willpower), and here only coding will help and, most likely, repeated. Yes, it does not always help, but at least for a short time, but it will bring the person out of this state, and then psychological help will be required. you need to worry about his health. Alcohol is very dangerous for the body, it can even cause heart failure, therefore, when the father drinks - try to stay close (in the same apartment), so that in an emergency, for example, he may need a heart massage, for example help.

How can you help dad: if a person first drinks a lot of alcohol, then a sharp refusal can cause a if only a sip of alcohol and you see that he is really bad (pallor of the face, weakness, strong shaking of hands), then do not get sweaty and bring him a little alcohol. In addition, in a drunken state, dad can simply fall, choke, choke, etc. Therefore, in such moments, treat it with attention, do not throw it ! But you shouldn’t go for it!

I know from my own experience what such excuse D as yours and my fathers cannot change for the better. Finish school to wait for the accomplishment and during this time to calculate all possible options:

  • immediately after the age of 18, leave home forever and never meet with father again
  • work where they give service housing
  • become a military officer
  • marry a guy who has a place to live
  • move to another region
  • go abroad in general
  • there may be other options

Chat with smart adults outside the home who will treat you well.

I would like to share a real story of recovery.

The situation was heating up, the husband began to drink a lot (drink a lot). Drinks every day, at least half a liter of vodka (moonshine) a day (sometimes more) Goes into a binge, he may not drink for two days and then again. Becomes inadequate, aggressive, angry, breaks dishes.
(not on purpose, coordination is disturbed) Such scandals are almost daily. As soon as she did not try to stop him, he persists (he is already stubborn, and alcohol aggravates this). All plans are violated, money is wasted, everything is started and abandoned at home. I am 30 years old, two children. I have been married for 8 years, I work for days at work. The first 5 years we lived in happiness and joy, everything was good with us. My husband worked and earned good money for mejuice plant. Then he was fired and it all began.
Alcohol was the main reason for quarrels. He loved to drink from the very beginning. But as he said, "Only in the company, I myself am not an alcoholic drinker" And the truth. At work he often had it. And at a party he did not know the measure. My hands just dropped. I found out through a friend about the drops that can be imperceptibly mixed in to my husband so that he stops drinking. And indeed, after a month the drinking stopped, he became a completely different person. Found a job. I am very happy! For anyone interested, you can read an interesting article in detail here.

Answer 2
January, 2021

After reading all the comments I will say head on, you are a man yourself a long time ago. Mom under the arm and dump, if possible, then evict him. There is also an option to put him in a hospital with alcoholism, but it’s difficult if mom doesn’t take the initiative.

Answer 3
January, 2021

Leave your father. Such a way of life under the yoke of negative and aggressive pressure from relatives does not lead to good. Experience shows that changes for the better do not usually take place in such families. So you need to try to protect your psyche from attacks as much as possible. And this is done better at a distance. Don't let your life be ruined, we have only one.

Answer 4
January, 2021

I sympathize with you!

In my subjective opinion, there are two possible solutions:

1) Contact the police. Every time these situations happen. The probability of solving the issue once and for all: not a fact. Nevertheless, I think that it still needs to be done, since the patient may begin to understand that his actions will not go unpunished within the family.

2) Move out and start living independently. The probability of solving the issue is much higher, I think this is the only possible option. In addition to this, you will start an independent life with all the ensuing positive consequences.

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