We need to think about it. Do not hush up the topic of death, not only in communicating with other people, but also in communicating with yourself.
Further REALIZE that this is REALLY inevitable.
And don't forget about it.
Acceptance comes gradually.
I can tell you the following about my experience.
This topic, as well as what happens after death, has interested me since childhood. My biggest fear was the loss of my mother. Perhaps the interest was caused by this, since I could not, in principle, imagine our parting "forever". And so I tried to understand what and how.
A year ago it happened and I faced the inevitable.
I continued to be interested in the topic of life after death, any taboo was removed from discussions of death and now I speak about it freely. Only there is really no one to talk to, except for the sister - people avoid it. I also listen to my feelings VERY deeply. And often what comes to me is really almost impossible to describe in human language.
From what is possible: death is really not the end and not oblivion, but we in our earthly form and level are not able to realize it. There are many more, the greatest multitude of everything besides us. I do not support any religion or esoteric practices and so on. And I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone, because my goal is to get answers.
Oh, here's more about fear.
I stopped being afraid of my death, but really began to be afraid of either early death (because life is very amazing and interesting and I want to learn as much as possible here ), or on his deathbed it is bitter to regret that he lived his life meaningless and stupid.
And only recently, for the second time in my life, having smoked herbs and grabbed the arrival of panic due to a very rapid heartbeat, I felt the fear of dying right here, now.
From which I subsequently concluded that in a (pseudo) critical situation a person turns on a certain defense mechanism, an instinct for self-preservation, which, through fear, makes the owner act to save himself.
I mean that in a conscious state before death, we are more likely to experience fear in any case. This is inherent in us.
Another thing is very important - not to live with this fear and not to ignore this aspect of our being.
Now I understand that this is a philosophy of life: a person was born - a person must die. Between these two points is life. Whether you want it or not, regret it, do not regret it, and it will be so.
My father died five years ago, lung cancer with metastases. I knew the diagnosis, saw the history, took him to chemotherapy. I knew what the ending would be like. He was already weak. And then, three days before his death, he suddenly felt better, even began to walk, tried to push up on the floor - he was a strong little man. My mother calls me: "Oh, listen, dad felt better, I gave him herbs to drink, so he began to walk ...". And I was like, "Mom, why are you fantasizing? .. He will die anyway." I said so about my father to my mother. She burst into tears and hung up. Then I changed my mind - damn it, I'm a pathologist, but she's not.
Everyone thinks about death. I also think, I'm just not afraid of natural death. It is scary to die in the prime of life - either by force or by accident. I have determined for myself that my physical body will die, but my continuation will live in my children and in my grandchildren.
I believe that not only students should be taken to the morgue - doctors. Today's youth, and those who are older, for some reason avoid the topic of death. And this is like avoiding the topic of love, sex, children. My daughter's friends say, they say, why have children, why start a family, if we all die? Well, the opposite is true. You will die if you have no children. And if you do, you will live forever . "
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American psychologist Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, in the process of working and observing patients dying from serious illnesses, identified 5 stages of accepting death. By the way, they were repeatedly voiced in Doctor House:
Stage 1 - Denial
Stage 2 - Anger
Stage 3 - Bargaining
Stage 4 - Depression
Stage 5 - Acceptance
That is, we can conclude that everything will happen by itself, after going through the previous 4 stages.