What if my parents came up to me and told me that I was adopted?

What if my parents came up to me and told me that I was adopted?

I'm Sure I'm Adopted But My Parents Deny It

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Answer 1
January, 2021

For example, I have an adopted younger brother. And his parents from the age of six did not hide it from him. We talked with him, found out his opinion on this matter, and so on. Basically, being adopted doesn't change anything in terms of parent-child relationships. There are certain attitudes in the head about what a child and a parent are, and these attitudes are formed in the case of adopted children. That is, for your parents you are a native child, they take care of you, provide and love you, if, of course, we are talking about a family with non-deviant behavior. Even I, as a sister, formed the conviction that this person is my own brother. It is not an easy thing to say directly about it.

Answer 2
January, 2021

What can you do here? Continue to live. I assure you that adopted children can be loved no less than relatives. In principle, the adoptive parents of these children are considered relatives. This even has its advantages. Firstly, parents have such children precisely consciously. And, secondly, children can be proud that they chose them, and not other children.) So they are the best! Of course, the question immediately arises - who are the biological parents and the desire to see them. Here, most often, disappointment awaits. Alas, cases with rich and noble parents who accidentally lost their baby, and then look for him all their lives, are only in melodramas. It is much more likely that they will turn out to be marginals, with whom in life you would hardly want to have anything in common. Therefore, I advise, first of all, to be grateful to those parents who raised.

Answer 3
January, 2021

What do you think should be done if you find out that 2 + 2 = 4, or that the earth revolves around the sun?

Perhaps it is very important for someone who gave birth to you, but parents are not only and not so much the people who gave birth to you, but rather the people who raised you, helped you, shared their experiences, fed you at last, worried about you and loved you.

What the parents told you that you are a foster in the first place means that you are old enough to know the truth, you are old enough to make certain decisions to ask yourself the question, for example, what to do now? This is a new stage in your growing up and your parents' respect for you. I would even say that your parents are somewhat more difficult than others - after all, they are not physically related to you, which means they need to love you even more in order to go through all the difficulties of life with you.

So on In my opinion, nothing needs to be done, because nothing has really changed - you were an adopted son yesterday and last week, last month and even last year. You just didn't know about it, but now you do.

Welcome to the new world, where every day you will learn something new, hitherto unknown to you. :)

Answer 4
January, 2021

I think they did it out of love. Probably, now I will not formulate a thought very competently, but I think my point of view will be clear. Here are two people who have adopted a small child. Probably for some reason, it did not work out to start one. Therefore, I think, the adoptive, they will love no less. After all, this is the same little person, no worse than others, who also needs love, affection and so on. For many years they bring up, give everything to make him a good person, worry about him when he has gone somewhere, when he has some worries, well, isn't this a manifestation of parental love? These are the parents. And I think if they said so, they probably just did not want to hide it. What to do in this case? I personally don't know. Probably I could not answer your question, but I hope my little reasoning prompted some thoughts and you made conclusions.

Answer 5
January, 2021

Walk up to them and say that they came from another planet.

And it is better to read them a psychological analysis of your inner state.

Squeeze out everything you can.

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