What if at 23 it seems like it's over and you start wanting to want something?

What if at 23 it seems like it's over and you start wanting to want something?

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Answer 1
August, 2021

Accept this and move on. Do not take this condition seriously. This is just your state, your feelings, your thoughts. It doesn't kill you if you don't bring it down to depression and cut veins, and you're still not a teenager to indulge in nonsense. Your thoughts and feelings may change literally tomorrow: you will be interested in some kind of garbage, you will meet the love of your life, an opportunity will turn up that you never dreamed of, you will have an accident and thank God for surviving, and so on and so forth. the like. All this is likely. It is equally likely that your feelings will not change in any way, and you will continue to get up with them in the morning. If you do not perceive the inner emptiness as something terrible, interfering with life and in general a sentence, it will not interfere with your life. You will delve into yourself and attach importance to every thought - you will definitely reach depression and addictions, and there it is not far away to die young. It's romantic and someone, maybe, will even cry over your sad fate. It's up to you.

Answer 2
August, 2021

I suggest that you treat the search for a work in life as a research work, and enjoy the process. Most likely this question cannot be answered quickly. It will probably take you a year, maybe two.

At the end of the message - a small gift - a poem by Kipling.

First, you should take into account the initial data.

1) You are 25 years old.

2) If you lead a healthy lifestyle, take care of yourself, do not start illnesses, you will be able to actively live up to 75 years.

3) Therefore , it's about how to spend the next 50 years of life.

4) It is wise to spend 2-4% of this time looking for what you will enjoy doing the rest of 96-98% of your life.


The following seems reasonable to me:

I) Study what other people have written about your problem.

II) Expand your horizons and erudition in order for you there was plenty to choose from. Most likely, you just do not yet know what interests you and what fascinates you.

III) Surround yourself with enthusiastic people from different fields of knowledge.

IV) Keep a diary in which you will describe your impressions, make comments that will help you figure out your preferences in the future.

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In addition, I will say that now there are a lot of sectarian seminars, in which people are supposedly helped to find themselves, but in fact they are washed brain. It is wise to stay away from them. As well as from any esotericism, where, under the guise of an incredible discovery, people are offered common truths.

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Now for more details:

I) * Examine what other people have written about your problem *

I think the first thing to do is read the non-exhaustive list of books that can lead you to some useful conclusions or serve as a guide to action.

1) Viktor Frankl - "A Man in Search of Meaning", "Psychologist in a Concentration Camp"

Frankl went through Auschwitz and how no one else knows a lot about the meaning of life.

2) Vladimir Levy - "Where to live?"

Levi acts as a friend-advisor, leading the reader to an answer.

3) Eugene O'Kelly - "In pursuit of the escaping light"

O'Kelly, an outstanding leader of the American company KPMG, was delighted with the news that he had 100 days to live because of brain cancer. O'Kelly conducted an audit of his life and developed a strategy according to which he lived until the end of his days. The last chapter was written by his wife.

4) Fyodor Uglov - "The Heart of a Surgeon", "Everyday Life of a Surgeon"

Fyodor Uglov is an example of a person who is passionate about the profession since childhood. The book will once again remind you of what passion and passion for work is. It is also interesting from the point of view of the events described. It is easy to read and in one breath.

5) Tina Seelig - "Do it yourself"

Tina believes that people often stop themselves fromdeliberate restrictions and because of this they do not achieve success. She gives examples of interesting unconventional behavior that helps to resolve difficult situations.

6) Arthur Schopenhauer - "Aphorisms for assimilating worldly wisdom"

The enthusiastic misanthrope Schopenhauer throws up seemingly obvious ideas, which sometimes elude attention. For example, that you should take care of the kind of education and activity that suits your personality and inclinations, and avoid everything else.

7) Chesterfield - "Letters to Son"

Chesterfield is a British politician who lived in the 1700s and shares ideas that are still valuable today. He has a lot of sound advice on ethics, honor, duty that you can introduce into your life.

8) Dan Kennedy - "Tough Time Management"

Dan shows how time is valuable in monetary terms, and teaches them how to properly manage.

II) * Expand your horizons and erudition *

Read books in various directions:

  • Biography

  • Fiction

  • Psychology

  • Technics

  • Biology

  • Policy

Watch various video courses:

  • coursera.org

  • novoed.com

  • stepic.org

  • khanacademy.org

III) * Surround yourself with passionate people *

Try attending events that discuss topics you are unfamiliar with. Topics vary: art, business, languages.

If you're having a hard time making new connections, try reading and applying networking articles and books. For example, here is a good article: edu.lb

In St. Petersburg, good lectures are given by:

  • Hermitage Youth Center: vk.com

  • Business incubator "Ingria": vk.com

IV) * Keep a diary *

A diary will allow you to organize the accumulated impressions, refresh some memories, evaluate how effectively you spend your time. In addition, it will allow you to keep track of how your worldview changes over time.

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Control yourself in the midst of a confused crowd

Who swears you for the confusion of all,

Believe in yourself, in spite of the universe,

And let the unbelievers forgive their sin;

Let the hour not strike - wait without getting tired,

Let the liars lie - do not condescend to them;

Be able to forgive and do not seem, forgiving,

More generous and wiser than others.

Be able to dream without becoming a slave to dreaming,

And think without deifying thoughts;

Equally meet success and desecration,

Don't forget that their voice is deceitful;

Stay quiet when your own word

Cripples a cheat to catch fools,

When all life is destroyed and again

You must recreate everything from the basics.

Be able to put, in joyful hope,

Everything that you have accumulated with difficulty is at stake,

To lose everything and become a beggar, as before,

And never regret that

Be able to force the heart, nerves, body

Serve you when in your chest

Everything is empty for a long time, everything burned out

And only Will says: "Go!"

Stay simple when talking to kings,

Stay honest when talking to the crowd;

Be direct and firm with enemies and friends,

Let everyone, in their hour, reckon with you;

Fill every moment with meaning,

Hours and days of elusive running, -

Then you will take possession of the whole world,

Then, my son, you will be Human!

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I wish you success!

Answer 3
August, 2021

Change your thinking.

Maybe the phrase "Any end is the beginning of something new"

Realize that 23 is not even half of the average life expectancy. You still have so many years ahead for which you can create, develop and experience a lot. You are young and have the ability to build and achieve goals

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