My experience and the experience of friends / acquaintances who turned to a psychologist and this did not give anything categorically, except for a huge waste of money and time. psychologist. If you can’t, study, educate yourself, study yourself and your inner world. For a million years, a man has done without a cerebral law and has not died out, has developed. But in the last 50 years we go to psychologists and we are degrading ... I will not say what is the cause and what is the consequence, but I see a clear tendency for a person to turn into a biorobot. Don't go here, don't act like that, don't say these words, don't watch this, don't read that ... A person is driven into a mold. And psychologists are at the forefront here.
What exactly? Many things. But for example, in the Soviet Union, everything that began with the word psycho ... public opinion was such that in some subconscious way it preferred to stay away, not only from such education, but also from doctors, who at that time did not leave them room for wide practice. The power of education and public opinion does a lot, both good and bad.
Saving money, you have to pay a psychologist. Somewhere in America, seeing a psychologist is part of health insurance. Moreover, it is necessary to visit a psychologist, even though it is free of charge, otherwise there will be penalties. For money, only "psychos" will visit a psychologist. When a person has really big problems. As in the TV series "Trigger" :)
Although I'm not an expert. Let the psychologists themselves speak.
It is very difficult to turn to psychologists, because this is an admission that you yourself cannot cope with the problem yourself. And therefore you are sick, and no one wants to consider themselves that way. In addition, not everyone wants to tell someone what it’s dumb to admit to themselves.
There are many reasons, and they are individual. Here are some of them:
📌 Fear of judgment from the psychologist. It happens that the reason for contacting a psychologist is reactions, thoughts, feelings, the expression of which is not encouraged by society. A logical assumption arises that the reaction of a psychologist will not differ from the reactions of other people, that it can be aggressive, unfriendly, judgmental, and evaluative. However, a psychologist is not a sage who knows how to do it right, and not a judge passing a death sentence. But the person who can support, empathize, be close, help to look for support and resources in order to feel better.
📌 The experience that the psychologist "reads" you like an open book. These fears are unjustified - people are complex, and psychological science has nothing to do with extrasensory perception and mind reading. The psychologist, like any other person, gets to know you gradually - through personal communication and through the stories that you tell about yourself.
📌 Distrust of a psychologist as a professional. If you doubt the competence of a specialist, you can ask him to show the relevant educational documents and ask questions that interest you. It's okay to take care of your safety.
📌 Fear that the psychologist will tell someone about you. Dissemination of personal information about a client is a gross violation of the ethical code of a psychologist (http://psyrus.ru/rpo/documentation/ethics.php).
Confidentiality is a basic ethical principle that is observed by psychologists.
📌 Difficulties in the selection of a psychologist - it is not clear where and how to look for him. This problem is dealt with by the service for the selection of a psychologist Alter (https://psyalter.ru).
📌 Not understanding the difference between communicating with a psychologist and communicating with a friend. "A friend has known me for ten years, and a psychologist is a stranger, why should I go to him?" A friend can spend time with you, listen, drink wine. Most likely, in a difficult situation, a friend will be on your side - and that's great. Friendly support heals and empowers, but does not replace professional help. Sometimes it is extremely difficult to understand what is happening without psychological knowledge and skills.
📌 "There is no solution for my problem." Indeed, there is not a single person who would experience something in the same way as you - this is your uniqueness. At the same time, there are problems that can be called "universal" for humanity as a whole: in everyone's life there are themes of loneliness, death, freedom, relationships with others, responsibility, etc. Therefore, the likelihood that someone has already encountered a similar problem, conducted a number of scientific studies, described it and developed ways to resolve it is extremely high. But you may not know about it if you don't try :)
📌 Consultations with a psychologist are paid. This may be a reason not to contact him. However, when you pay for a consultation, you pay the psychologist to talk to you, about you and for you - he uses his attention and professionalknowledge to provide assistance. Paying for psychological counseling is an investment in yourself.
In addition, if you really do not have the opportunity to pay for psychological assistance, but you need it, you can get it for free:
📎 +7 (495) 989-50-50 - hotline of the psychological service of the Ministry of Emergencies;
📎 https://pkb1.ru/besplatye-onlajn-konsultatsii-dlya-naseleniya/ - Free supporting conversations for the population from the psychiatric clinical hospital No. 1 named after ON. Alekseeva, Moscow
📎 +7 (495) 051 - Moscow service of psychological assistance to the population