As a teenager, I had some problems that a psychotherapist could help solve. It so happened that my parents are quite versatile personalities and I had a lot of books at home in various directions. Including psychology, sociology, that's all. I was looking for answers there.
When the meeting with the therapist did take place, we had three boring dialogues in which he tried to convince me that I have a pathology, I need medications and hospitalization, and they just have vacancies. I paid attention to attempts to put me on a hospital only afterwards, but in general, the conversations reminded me of something. I sat down to remember and remembered one of the books I had read, in which the approach to the patient was painted on the shelves - just like in my case. Therefore, at the next meeting, after part of a boring dialogue, I told the “specialist” everything I think about his skills, about how he is going to help me, in what sequence he will do it, in which book it is all described and what he would not go fuck with this approach.
The session was terminated with lightning speed, for some reason I was not invited to new ones ...
I had an experience of working with a therapist, which fundamentally did not suit me in character.
I am a very sensitive and quiet person, but I have many inner experiences. I always want to express them, but it is also always very difficult to do this.
And that therapist was emotional and temperamental, and at our meetings he literally filled the entire space. We worked on what he himself considered problems, but in fact I wanted him to help me express and work through those experiences that bothered me specifically.
I could not shout out to him, he considered my tears a sign of success, they say, the injuries were revealed. But in fact, I was just scared from his assertiveness and loud voice, and very offended and lonely because I could not express my real feelings.
After parting, I was angry and offended at him for a long time, but in the end she brought out a very significant experience for herself, which more than once helped in working with her clients: that each client needs its own format of work, someone needs a theory, someone likes to "talk about life"; someone knows how to "work" perfectly, but someone needs to "worry"; some easily accept the therapist's interpretations, others need everything to be the way they think it is correct.
And if it doesn't work out, then it's okay, it's just that the therapist and the client are different people.