My friend does not want to seek help from a psychotherapist, because
that she doesn't like being "explained". How to understand and convince her?

My friend does not want to seek help from a psychotherapist, because that she doesn't like being "explained". How to understand and convince her?

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answers (2)

Answer 1
September, 2021

Everything is very simple: you need to go to a psychotherapist when a person does not like his condition very much, and he believes that he cannot cope with it.
People are not taken to a psychotherapist by force. You can only get to a psychiatrist forcibly, and then if there is a threat to someone's life and health. So: when she herself needs it badly, then she will go. Itself. Knowing in advance that she will have to face some kind of discomfort. To avoid greater discomfort in everyday life for some psychological reason.
If she doesn't want to go, then he doesn't. And it doesn't matter at all how she explains it.

And even more: only when a person really needs it, then the therapist will help.
And if you persuade her to go once, it will be wasted money, benefits it won't.

Answer 2
September, 2021

"I don't like being explained" means that it is unpleasant for a person to hear other people interpret her thoughts and actions. This is protection from external influences on the psyche or protection from those thoughts that arise in this case. This is normal. If she has already gone and did not like it, then the doctor chose the wrong tactic of the conversation, this is decided by changing the doctor. If she did not go, it is definitely worth a try, because, in principle, one conversation with a therapist will not harm anyone. All OK? Well, that's nice. No? We will do something, or we will not do anything. The choice is up to the person. But is it worth convincing her of this? I don’t know her situation, her problems.

Perhaps it will be easier for your friend to turn first not to a psychotherapist, but simply to a psychologist. After all, a person subconsciously feels that if he goes to a doctor, it means that he is sick. And many people feel uncomfortable with being mentally ill, we have such a prejudice that this is not normal. In fact - boldly 25% of the population have problems with this. But I digress. So, a psychologist can be on her territory - a psychologist at her work, for example. Or your mutual friend, a psychologist. You can arrange a meeting with him. However, there is a danger that the friend will perceive this as a game behind her back and close even more. I can't predict this anymore, here you have to think for yourself.

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