I'm an empath, and it's hard for me to live with it, I am constantly emotionally burned out. How to be, how not to take everything to heart?

I'm an empath, and it's hard for me to live with it, I am constantly emotionally burned out. How to be, how not to take everything to heart?

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Answer 1
March, 2021

Stay who you are. Is it bad that you know how to empathize, this is a rare quality! After all, there are more indifferent ones. And with you it is good, listening and empathizing, you make life easier for another. The most important thing is then to reboot, get as many positive emotions as possible, communicate with animals, if you have them, these are cats, dogs, puppies. Thus, you will replenish your energy. But it is impossible and not necessary to change, you were born this way and thank your parents that you are so

Answer 2
March, 2021

Shining on others - I burn myself, there is no salvation from this. It's just that when you burn out, everyone will turn away from you and forget. However, if you give your warmth, participation and empathy - at this moment you also get moral satisfaction.

Answer 3
March, 2021

this problem is familiar to me as a melancholic. Therefore, I have something to share

The first thing you should pay attention to is your general state of health, with a decline in health (depression), the mental state and your mental weaknesses begin to deteriorate.

Second, perhaps most important. If the work is associated with enormous nervous stress, as a result of intense communication with people, it is better to change jobs, otherwise you will simply burn out at work (working with people, swearing, and so on). Great happiness for you, work with finances, It sphere, and so on or physical work. (Leave the nervous work to phlegmatic and sanguine people)

Self-improvement, yoga, running, cycling (in particular pranayama) helps a lot. Breathing exercises Buteyko, Frolova (the effectiveness has been experimentally proven)

There is another way that one psychologist suggested to me

(it is necessary to change the attitude towards many things that touch you)

And, remember, the greatest writers and people of the arts were mostly melancholic

Answer 4
March, 2021

When you feel the pain of another, at some point you understand that you need to calm down, otherwise, you simply cannot, normally think about how and how to help him. And to help you need to act and for this you need to be calm. Here a doctor, when treating a patient, should be calm. And we must strive to make a world without suffering.

Answer 5
March, 2021

I could also rank myself in this category of people. Is it empathy? I think that incl. and her - after all, such skills are not formed on nothing. Soon you will be a discerning person like a prophet. And also to become an entrepreneur (entrepreneurial thinking). Someone succeeds in using their gifts and talents. For you, especially in our time, no one will try. And also to be a Phoenix bird! Some benefits and talents! And you are going to get rid of God's gifts, which are consumed in this self-criticism, even for some false motives and doctrines you want to internally deny and reject them as vices. This is how you burn out under the pen of negative experiences, incl. and with health. Christ is risen!!! He loves us, and therefore will help.

Answer 6
March, 2021

What you are describing is more like emotional lability (mobility), vulnerability.

Empathy is still different. It lies precisely in the fact that:

1) you can make informed assumptions about the feelings of other people, find similar feelings in your experience, respond to a person, accurately naming his feelings and talking about your consonant

2) SEPARATE the feelings of another person from your own, do not merge with his feelings. He is he, you are you. His feelings are exactly his, although you can empathically understand them well and sincerely empathize with him.

Empathy is exactly 1) + 2).

And if you, like me, are simply emotionally mobile by nature - master emotional intelligence. This is the sum of the skills. Empathy is one such skill, separated by commas. And the very first, basic skill is to notice in the moment and name your feelings to yourself. With words. And the dictionary so that it was much richer than "I feel good" and "I suck." The more shades you learn to notice and name, the more they become not your masters, but friends.

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