How to weaken a 6-year-old depression, severe social phobia, neurosis, especially when an ugly appearance cannot be corrected, like a pitiful temperament?

Without doctors, you will not be able to make the correct diagnosis, understand the reasons and get the right treatment. But still, try - auto-training, systemic physical activity, observe the regimen, good nutrition, take soothing herbal preparations and look for positive in everything.

Hello !

Have you yourself diagnosed yourself? Or did someone put it to you?

Judging by your question, you are not ready for changes either. There is no money, you don’t want to leave your comfort zone (here it’s generally interesting how you plan to develop, because the very concept of "training" implies leaving the comfort zone).

In your case, judging by your motivation , you can just lie down in a coffin and wait for your logical end ...

And why Love you if you do not love yourself? Why should I respect you if you do not respect yourself? Are you afraid of people, why do you need them then? And why come out of depression? Go to society? Indeed, in society, everything is more complicated , there is one continuous stress ...

This is one variant of events. But there is a second!

Stretch your rolls, stop "throwing beads", whine and start changing yourself and your life. Nobody will do it for you. Appearance is not the ultimate dream, women do not choose men for their beautiful eyes (and if for the eyes, then there is not very much intelligence, if we talk about a woman).

We must stop being a rag, well, honestly, it happens to everyone. You are not alone in this. But it is better to be alone among the successful and happy than to be alone among the unhappy and angry.

Stop blaming yourself for all the failures and blunders. It's time to start LIVE !

Take care of yourself!

You need to do a little work on yourself here.

1. Realize that in childhood someone convinced you and reinforced the belief that you are miserable and ugly. Obviously comparing to someone on the cover of a magazine or news about the success of science and art.

2. Realize that you are probably already getting the usual masochistic pleasure of calling yourself pathetic and ugly. Perhaps with the best of intentions to push Ilonamask and StevaJobs to the top.

After that, find a time when it becomes completely sick. Really bad. Well, like a smoker who smokes until he coughs and is almost disabled. And then make the first (or thirtieth) attempt to quit spreading rot and start communicating with those who look at life positively and do what they can, content with little and rejoicing in little.

And try to take an example from positively minded people.

And how will he again pull into the company of negativists who gather in the smoking room in order to harm themselves - to beat themselves on the hands, lips and legs so that they do not pull there.

A couple of months of abstinence

A couple of months of withdrawal and you will gradually lose the habit, and even then you will remember with disgust how you hurt yourself in this negativist community.

But to survive withdrawal, you need to load yourself with work for 20 hours per day. Positive work, where everything works out for you and there are only positive people around.

Seek and find.

Ask and they will give you.

Well, or somehow live this life as it is, spending the last days in a smoking room for the wretched.