How to understand: what I want? How to live, who to be? If everything around seems meaningless, gray. There are no relatives, there is no one to ask, the psychotherapist puts on antidotes, and from them I am completely vegetable. Where is the exit? I do not want to go out the window. ?

How to understand: what I want? How to live, who to be? If everything around seems meaningless, gray. There are no relatives, there is no one to ask, the psychotherapist puts on antidotes, and from them I am completely vegetable. Where is the exit? I do not want to go out the window. ?

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answers (4)

Answer 1
July, 2021

There is a paradox in your question. On the one hand, you want to understand what exactly you want, and on the other hand, for someone to tell you what you want.

To understand what exactly you want, you need to pay attention to your most seemingly insignificant desires. When you have caught the thought of a desire, then you should not think about how other people would act or ask them for advice.

Do not forget about the consequences of your choice, because desires can affect relationships with others. But this is not a reason to give up your desires. You can always find an activity that fits within socially acceptable boundaries.

Note that desire is something that pleases and inspires you, and not destructive thoughts. Destructive thoughts are trying to get away from the problem. Fulfilling desires requires courage and strength.

Answer 2
July, 2021

To understand this, you need to analyze yourself very deeply, in detail and with inspiration.

Find out what I was like in different periods of my life. What I liked, why I like the beginning, why I stopped. Which of the deep states, feelings and motivations I have left (from anywhere, even from infancy).

To live in this world you need to know yourself well.

Answer 3
July, 2021

Well, sort it out there "among yourself", you still like something in this life, at least campute games and / or tryndezh along the Tyrnet. Although the devil knows what your diagnosis is, if a psychotherapist puts you on something. Read books by pop psychologists - Litvak, Levy, Kozlov, suddenly they will pull you out of the "quagmire of meaninglessness".

Answer 4
July, 2021

First of all, such states must be endured. We must learn to take a punch. It will make you stronger if you don't despair. There is a way out of any situation, but it is very individual, so it is difficult, without knowing you, to advise something sensible.

First of all, having calmed down a bit, ask yourself the question: why am I alone? Why are there no friends and relatives? Can you still eat? It is difficult for one person to resolve all issues. But if there is someone who treats you with sympathy, take good care of that person and their feelings for you. You need at least some loved ones with whom you could have an evening or at least 15 minutes from time to time.

How to live and who to be? Secondly, you are already someone, no matter how worthless you seem to yourself. The problem with many subdepressions and low self-esteem is an inadequately negative attitude towards oneself. Accept yourself as you are, even if you are weak at the moment and do not know how much. Accepting yourself for who you are is an essential step in self-rehabilitation. You kind of start to feel your starting point.

Then, after all this, take some meaningful steps. Think about what you would like in principle? Motivation is not difficult to awaken, it is difficult to maintain it. And here you may really need a psychologist (not a psychiatrist) who works with you using psychological techniques (and not just prescribes pills). Find your psychologist (not a psychiatrist). Look for someone to help you. You may not find it right away, but you will find it.

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