Is it better to become an active realist? To do something useful for society, for their loved ones.
Behind the way of actions and thoughts of each person lies his worldview, which is based on a certain philosophy, which he adopted under the influence of external circumstances, and most often as a result of communication ... Some worldview concepts can be objective and help a person act in reality, while others, on the contrary, immerse him in illusion and delusion.
A realist understands very well who he is, where he is, what brings him happiness and satisfaction. He does the things that he is really capable of, and about the rest that does not depend on him, he does not worry much. Because he really understands that he will not be able to influence this, but will only waste his time and nerves.
There is another category of people who experience happiness within themselves. They do not depend on external circumstances for their philosophy, their worldview is higher than the temporary transient happiness and suffering of this world. Their consciousness is in the spiritual realm.
Of course, it is necessary, it is not difficult to imagine how life would be in a society where everyone is a pessimist! For example, take this situation, two friends, an optimist and a pessimist. Which of them will have to put in more effort to have a good time? Of course, to an optimist, because he will pull out his unfortunate every time he dismiss the nurse on another occasion, or will passively react to very intricate proposals! In a society where everyone is optimistic, it would be much easier to live, study, love, work, rest.
Do you need it? Both optimists and pessimists are useful to society. Pessimists, for example, expect the worst possible scenario, which can play a key role if the worst really happens.
This is happening to me now, I can share my method.
There are several negative qualities that affect the current state: anger, resentment, envy. If you have ever been offended by someone, you remember it, you "loop" this situation. If you change your mindset, stop clinging to the past, forgive all offenders and let go of the situation, you open yourself up to new things, new discoveries, emotions and feelings. Next, try to stop preparing for failure, frustration, and stress. Don't cheat yourself on who will think of you and what. In fact, 80% of the people around you just don't think about you. Stop complaining, stop looking back. I really liked the thought from the book by Guy Kawasaki: “Learn from your successes, not your mistakes. If you have failed in business, you have exactly the same experience as a person who has not done anything yet. But if you have succeeded, you you know how to repeat it. " Go over in your head that you are doing it. How glad you are that something happened. Sincerely! And when thoughts of failure come, replace them with something you like and delight in. It's not easy at all, but worth it. If you tell yourself that something good is going to happen today, it will! You choose whether to go out in the sun or sit in the shade. In the end, failure, stress, anger, etc. just doesn't exist. Everything is in you. This is your reaction to certain things. Learn to get along with yourself and your life will change forever.