... As a rule, by "experiences" the average man in the street means some negative emotions, states, moods experienced by him in connection with any setbacks, not achieving goals, not realizing interests and needs.
The simplest way to avoid "experiences" is to switch attention to another, new subject of interest. Lost your job - look for another. My wife left - look for another. The house burned down - build a new one. At least a hut.
... "Experiences" - whining, to put it simply, are susceptible to people with a neurotic mentality. If a neurotic is correctly aware of this peculiarity, he manages in most cases to "keep himself in hand" and normally overcome "emotional" states, normally occupying himself with normal psychoactive work or physical labor. Hobby for any "hobby" also absorbs such states well, incl. creative.
The information space is catching up with anxiety, do not read the news and all sorts of garbage publics. Save yourself one authoritative resource and review it once a day, for example, if you really want to. Better to spend your free time reading educational sources, books, blogs of psychologists, articles. I recommend the site of Alexander Felomaster, he has a lot of materials on the psychology of relationships, you can improve your communication skills, get to know yourself better, or even ask for advice. And about anxiety, fears, by the way, he also has topics. Look, I think, you will find something useful for yourself and you will be distracted.
Often, in order to stop worrying, effectively use the change in the focus of the problem perception.
For this it is useful to use words and phrases - anchors, which will help to shift the look from anxiety towards positive thoughts.
The first phrase to help: "It could be worse" is based on a powerful psychological the law of comparison. It helps to find the positive in the negative.
The second strong word is "But", which helps to strengthen the positive at the expense of all the good that is around the person.
You can learn more about the power and effect of these words in my special post that has already helped a lot of people. The article is available by link
Experiencing is actually useful. Since it is the experience that allows you to capture the experience. Accordingly, it makes sense to worry about specific actions in the moment where you are. It makes no sense to worry about the past, it has already been fixed in experience as the best for us. And about the future, it is just as meaningless, since it has not come. Experience healthier, but in the present. Do everything as good as possible, as good as possible.
It is important to understand what is meant by experience? I believe that we are talking about anxiety, excitement. And to stop worrying, you need to:
1) learn to cope with unpleasant, negative thoughts;
2) get rid of the habit of worrying and worrying.
Anxiety, excitement and worry are a habit. This is a psycho-emotional response to our negative, unpleasant thoughts. The more we are immersed in our thoughts, gloomy predictions and decadent fantasies, the more we worry and worry. If you stop immersing yourself in your thoughts, if you refuse to follow their lead and cheat yourself, you can avoid worry and anxiety.
It is also important to keep in mind that we have wrong beliefs regarding experience and anxiety, and we need to work with these beliefs too.
So, you may think:
1) Experiences cannot be controlled, when I start to worry, I cannot stop. You have to endure and suffer.
But, as we said above, you can control your feelings if you do not follow the lead of your gloomy thoughts and indulge in unpleasant reflections out of the habit.
2) Experiences and anxiety are even useful, they help to foresee problems and troubles, to come up with a plan of action. Reflection helps.
If you think so, chances are your friends will sooner or later become depressed and severely anxious. "Reflection", intentional worry and excitement do not lead to anything reasonable. You are just chewing on unpleasant thoughts over and over again. These thoughts go round and round. You do not find answers to your questions. And you sink more and more into anxiety. This is a vicious circle. As long as you think worrying and worrying are even helpful, you are making the problem worse.
Worries and worries can and should be postponed and interrupted. This is a familiar course of action. When you have unpleasant or habitual thoughts, do not sit down to meditate and do not start a mental cycle.
Distance yourself from thoughts as well as from the noise of the street and shift your attention to other things.