How to stop loading because something does not work out, to get rid of torments due to mistakes, inadequate perfectionism?

How to stop loading because something does not work out, to get rid of torments due to mistakes, inadequate perfectionism?

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Answer 1
September, 2021

"Send all tries" - there is such a book) and the method itself is also very effective)) again these one hundred and forty characters are needed for answers, but I answered shortly)

Answer 2
September, 2021

In order:

  1. How to stop loading because something is not working out, to get rid of torment due to errors? I recommend to rejoice in your errors. But precisely to mistakes. A mistake is when you knew how to do it "right" but did it differently. That is, they were wrong. Not to be confused with trying - this is when you do something without knowing how to do it right.

Why rejoice? - when something does not work out for you, then you have found the border of your capabilities. And your development (learning) began. How can you not be happy? Seriously though, in this way you can rewrite the "imprint" of a negative reaction to something that does not work.

  1. Perfectionism - the desire to do something perfect. I once decided this for myself through the principle “I don’t need perfect, I need it by 15.00”. That is, I set aside time for some task, and I fit into this time. I justify to myself "that there are other tasks that need to be solved and I do not want to postpone them." Over time, a very useful habit develops correctly to set the time (to count your strength) for the task. And after that, productivity increases dramatically.
Answer 3
September, 2021

Take risks with a known error cost. Especially if success means an arbitrarily large gain, and not some limited and known in advance. Examples: buying a lottery ticket; holding a meeting with a potential client; an attempt to enter a university.

Do not take risks where the price is unknown in advance or is too high for you. Examples: buying lottery tickets with all the money; jump over the pit; slapping on the buttocks of unfamiliar women.

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