compassionate other people, pay attention to those who are worse than you, help them. To be happy and good and not so. Therefore, even in the negative one can find the positive. You just need to look at it from the other side
Labor made an animal a Man. Moreover, physical labor. Go to the pool. And physical loads and new acquaintances in life are present in him.
There are three questions. Think and answer yourself the truth. For which you feel sorry for yourself. How does this prevent you from enjoying life and what will happen if you stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you manage not to lie to yourself. Think about how these two concepts are related to each other and what prevents them from breaking. If you still need to think about it.
Sometimes you even need to feel sorry for yourself, you need to live this state, feel it. It's like getting sick with acute respiratory infections, going to bed, drinking a warm drink and getting well! So it is with emotions, give them a way out, cry, have pity on yourself, drink warm tea, get enough sleep and, as in the famous saying, "the morning is wiser than the evening." Smile more often, say kind words to yourself and those around you and you will not need to look for a reason for joy, be yourself a source of joy for yourself and others.
Do you like when you are given gifts? Imagine how happy the other person gets it! Why feel sorry for yourself, what will it give? If you feel bad, do something good to the other person, and you will see his joyful look, and it will become easy for you. Think about others more often than about yourself, good still comes back!
Any of our behavior is a template. In this case, the template may not be yours, but your parent's. And each template has its own positive intent.
In all possible situations, there is always one way out: to realize. Realize what a positive intention this template has. Realize where he came from. Straight here to seriously dig into yourself.
To enjoy life is also a pattern that you forcibly implement into your life. It's like a habit. We woke up in the morning, washed, looked in the mirror, smiled and said: I choose to enjoy life. A kind of affirmation.
At first it will be difficult and unusual. It can take years to change the template. But it's worth it.
It's just the opposite for me - I never feel sorry for myself and specially learn to do it, so I can't advise how to stop feeling sorry for myself. But I can advise you on how to start enjoying life.
I always think (perhaps too much) that every day may be the last - we never know what will happen tomorrow. And if you look at all the problems from the other side, then you will understand that in fact we are very happy people. If you are healthy, if your loved ones are healthy, then everything is fine and you can rejoice in any little things. Just look at all the problems from different angles. It is likely that from a different angle, the problem will no longer seem like a problem.