One American confessed to me that he can speak with the Scots only in person, because when you see a living Scotsman by his facial expressions and gestures, you can guess what he is saying, but on the phone it will just be a stream of some growling sounds. In Scotland, in addition to Celtic Helic (which is the second official language of the Highlands region), the speakers of which are vanishingly few, the so-called. scots, which is considered by many linguists to be a separate language of the West Germanic group (the West Germanic language group, a subgroup of English and Scottish languages). And it is he who has a strong influence on the dialect of local residents, which sounds generally different from English and is more reminiscent of Flamish or some kind of Norwegian. BBC Scotland (headquartered just in Glasgow) in 2011-12 released several seasons of the comedy sketch show Burnistoun, whose characters speak a dialect. It seems that the pilot version was the famous episode about a sound controlled elevator in Scotland, which was made in America and does not understand the Scottish accent
Although here, for example, the dialect sounds much weirder:
It is advisable to formulate such questions starting not with the phrase "how to stop", but with the phrase "how to start".
Accordingly, I see two variants of the question here that you can try to answer:
How do you start to be indifferent or kind to what is annoying now?
How to learn to communicate politely even when angry?
The answers to both questions, in my opinion, will be similar. In both cases, you need to not just get into situations of irritation, and then get upset that you lost your temper again. And it would be good, after the emotions have subsided, to live the situation again. For this, the ideal is to record yourself. Can you do it? I do not know. I can try to suggest options.
It was very useful for me to communicate on Internet forums on annoying topics (it helped a lot with the second question). Here you can re-read already on cold tracks, and, at times, you can re-read even before publishing your answer. Thus, you can train an internal translator, who later becomes fast enough to translate a harsh thought into a polite form on the go. (Here is a vivid example of what should start to work: youtube.com)
Another interesting option is the training of a slow, slightly viscous speech (Matroskin the cat). This manner of speaking allows you to express rather harsh things to the interlocutor in the eyes, but at the same time not be perceived as an argentor.
As for the full answer to the first question, it seems to me, without training the ability to put yourself in the interlocutor's place , it will be difficult to achieve tangible results. How to learn to put yourself in the place of the interlocutor? Start doing it. To think over past conflict situations from the point of view of the opponent: "What does he think?", "He thinks that he is doing everything right. If I were in his place, how would you have to approach me so that I would react kindly?" Etc.