How to learn to relax? I am almost always tense. Even when I sleep. Alcohol, baths, food, chamomile do not help.

A tense state ... is it mental tension: looping, recurring, obsessive thoughts? Is it muscle tension, a spasm of certain muscles? These are negative states: loneliness, ... no one loves me ..., longing? It would be valuable to write a little more about your stressful condition. I really do not recommend diving into catharsis according to the book, sending everyone and everything (as I understand this, I do not want to offend anyone) in accordance with the recommendations of a psychologist on The Question.

Contact a specialist, starting from an endocrinologist and a psychotherapist ... if you describe your tense state in more detail, then you can tell you something in more detail, otherwise there is a great risk of sending you in the wrong place, getting off with irresponsible fiction ...

Lie on the bed and relax completely FULLY. Throw away all thoughts and think about the flow of air that enters your body. You can include mantras. Very good reception, restores the body even in half an hour.

Wanguyu, that you do not have some kind of banal "stress", but old and serious psychological problems that require resolution with a specialist. Do not think that this is an attempt to "run over", the symptoms are very alarming.

I got in touch with the same problem and individual art therapy helps me - this is a type of psychotherapy. You may be asked to draw "tension" and a state of serenity or something else related to this request. The therapist observes how you paint, what colors you choose, fill in the entire sheet or only a part, analyzes the resulting drawing, gives comments. The most interesting thing is that for this you don't need to be an artist or even be able to draw a little, the point is to turn off your brains and draw what you feel, then our subconsciousness turns on. I do not fully understand how it works, but a good therapist gives practical recommendations based on the pictures, will help you learn how to control your condition, tell you what to do to overcome tension. In St. Petersburg I can recommend whom to contact, in principle, you can conduct art therapy via Skype, but I have not tried, I will not recommend.

I discovered yoga and meditation at the end of the lesson, I myself was constantly in overload mode, many projects, many hobbies, many thoughts, now I have enough in the morning 15 minutes of light training, and then 5-10 minutes of meditation.

I would also advise you to consult a doctor, and specifically to an endocrinologist with this question and, perhaps, this is a sign of increased production of cortisol in the body (it was hormonal problems that turned out to be the cause of daily tension and stress for me).

I recommend sending those who advise it to forced relaxation. And further in this spirit, to continue working on the expression of aggression - it helps.

I send spoilage to all miners, except for Christina. I can see you.

Writing is important. It does not solve the disorder, but it makes it clear where your problem is and where you need to go. You may even deny it or displace it with everyday worries, but all the same, inside you it generates your anxiety. And the stronger, the worse you can cope with such mild "depressants" (alcohol, food).

The most important thing is to find and kill, i.e. solve the problem of. If it does not lend itself to solution (this happens and often), there is another practice: catharsis.

You free yourself up a huge amount of time (so that at least this does not bother you), tell everyone not to be disturbed. And now you are sinking into this terrible state. Listen to music / movies that force you to vent your emotions, and continue to do everything for this. This is a kind of "reboot". There is a book about this technique, and the author said that at first it would be difficult to "enter and exit" from this state. Later, it came down to 10 minutes for a week, the rest of the time he was happy)

I will also attribute sports to the splash of emotions.

But look for problems, you can look in others (through others we get to know ourselves), and ultimately - you will find a way out