How to get rid of the habit of arguing?

The realization of the futility of this action helps me.

The fact that the truth is born in a dispute is a bit delirium. Truth can be born in a constructive discussion, and an argument is usually almost a squabble.

Well, why is it? A dispute is usually for the sake of an argument or to convince someone of something. And if the first is useless, then the second is also unproductive. What the heck?)

Good afternoon, fellow in misfortune! :)

Some time ago this question was also very acute for me, I just wanted to rush into battle if "someone is wrong on the Internet", if relatives or people around me said what I was with I do not agree. Now I take it all easier.

So, I call this the "anti-spore diet". Its main ingredient is willpower, no matter how trite it may sound. At first, you just need to force yourself to close your eyes, keep silent and walk by. It helps to remind yourself that arguing with people in most cases does not lead to anything, even if you back up all your arguments with some kind of evidence. This phenomenon is called the reverse effect - it occurs when evidence that refutes a point of view only leads to its strengthening. Simply put, people don't want to give up their opinions. And if so, then why waste energy on an extra argument?

When it comes to loved ones, it is even more difficult to resist, because they even more want to "guide them on the right path." And personally, I sometimes mentally twirl in my head a line of a song that once clung to me. It sounds like this: does it really matter who won today if you are alone? Maybe she can help someone else, it would be great :)

Over time, arguing only on business and in some cases becomes a habit. Everything that you want to say to your opponent settles in your thoughts, and this becomes, in principle, enough :))