You can clear it, but only temporarily. For example, during meditation. You can learn, again with the help of meditation, to control your consciousness and then you can not only get rid of unwanted thoughts and memories when they come, but even control this process. This is a common practice, the practice of knowing one's own self. Meditation allows you to comprehend as deeply as your will is enough for this (it is will, not intellect or mind).
The problems of the persecution of the past are encountered by many people. Most often this is due to a subconscious rejection of certain situations, whether it be the wrong choices made by a person, or unfair situations. In any case, these problems are exclusively internal in nature. In part, you can also bring the phrase here: "idleness is the forge of the devil", which means that the negative in life arises from an idle mind, in which bad thoughts come up. So the first way is to start living and doing a useful business that will not only help you get rid of obsessive thoughts, but also succeed in any area. It can be reading, a hobby, or sports. In any case, this will be the best alternative to a semi-depressive existence in which both fears of the future and regrets of the past and apathy of the present are mixed. A more effective and pointwise method is the opposite. That is, in a targeted memory, experience and pondering of a situation that has become negatively attached to you. When a ship at sea gets caught in a storm, it goes towards the center of the storm and passes through it, because in case of escape, the storm will chase the ship.In the same way, you should go through those situations that cause you negativity and let them go. Yes, it will be very difficult and unpleasant, but it is very easy to understand that it is better to find strength in yourself and endure once, rather than constantly run away from obsessive thoughts. The third option is aimed at getting rid of the general negativity and various garbage. This is a meditation method. Meditation is not difficult at all and you only need a couple of square meters of flat surface, a pillow and 5-15 minutes of free time. Meditation, like Vipassana, is a very simple method to get rid of obsessive thoughts and clear your mind.
There is such a technique of displacement. Do you know how to effectively get rid of the song of the "parasite" that stuck and does not leave your head? After each line, you need to add some word taken from the ceiling and try to sing it several times. This is how you can do it with some thoughts, but you need to understand each case separately, since in psychotherapy there is no one technique and technique for all problems.
Escape attempts prophesy an eternal return. Therefore, the only way out is a deep, painful introspection, which, ultimately, will help to revive the personality and, possibly, make it stronger and wiser. But, again, everything is quite individual, each case must be considered separately and the right ways and methods to solve the problem must be looked for.
Our mind is not a container or container for our experiences. We cannot empty it and live differently at once.
But why does it become easier for us over time? Emotions after a certain time lose their importance and significance, are deactivated and the bridge "unnecessary thought-unpleasant feeling" breaks. This is based on the gradual switching of our attention, as well as the protective functions of our psyche in relation to information: deactualization, devaluation, forgetting.
This is impossible - they can only be supplanted by new positive impressions, and then past failures and resentments will lose their emotional color, and the reasons that led to their occurrence can be soberly assessed and a lesson learned.
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Find an activity that seems important and dive into its study.
In my example, it was physics. In addition to the craving for suffering, I got some knowledge, a few friends and an inexpressible number of questions about everything.
It's easier to give yourself to work, it helps, but it will hardly develop.
I just write down on a sheet of paper everything that bothers me, and the brain perceives the record as something that is no longer necessary to constantly scroll so as not to forget. And the memories cease to be so sharp and painful, I throw away the leaf by itself.
Work. Work very hard. Take every minute of your free time with work. And then all your bad thoughts will go away. And negative memories will be forgotten, that's actually the whole secret :)
This is not such a difficult task. Easier than it seems. And there are more than one methods. But nevertheless it is not simple, and it cannot be solved in 5 minutes. To be more exact: "to clear the mind ..." can be done in 5 minutes, but the current will have to be engaged in preparatory exercises about a year. Variants: you can go to the TM people, to some sensible yogi thread to join the group, the non-monoshek qi-gong helps, and so on. There are also purely psychological methods, without a touch of esotericism; if I'm not confusing anything, then Assagioli took a suitable approach, although I could be wrong here.
Nothing that you can do will help you, because all this will come from all that impurity of consciousness, that is, from the mind, which is every person. A person is not a body, a body is just a form of nature that cleans itself, if you (a person) yourself do not insist on its pollution.
We are born not as a body, but in a body in the form of a thought-form - "I am", as an awareness of this very fact, with which it is impossible to argue, because, otherwise, there would be no such awareness. However, very soon we have to lose this innocence, which is called metaphorical pollution of the mind, in other words, the expulsion of us from Paradise or the fall.
We lose the ability, not realizing ourselves in it, to be aware of what is happening in witnessing ourselves and the world without being conditioned with what is witnessed. Through language we receive what we do not actually know. It is this knowledge that is the knowledge of the mind, its contents, with which we are forced to identify ourselves, becoming polluted, since direct and immediate, that is, existential awareness in a person does not work, there is no necessary strength of mind for this. Hence the lies and delusions that govern every person.
The answer that comes to mind first is no way. If you think about the wording of this question, it is easy to imagine the mind as a bag in which things are put or taken out. Or as a hard drive on which content is written or overwritten. But in reality this is not entirely true. Thinking is constantly busy with various tasks. It is a fluid process, only part of which is realized. Only what a person is focused on, what he is thinking about at the moment, has special qualities of brightness and liveliness, thanks to the mental function of attention. Attention has a number of properties, including switchability. To stop thinking about something, you need to switch your attention to another actual content of consciousness. An attempt not to think about something still keeps on this thought. If you don't want to think about the difficult conversation ahead, think about other conversations in the past. Think of good conversations that paid off. What arguments did you use? How did the interlocutor react?
In order to make the most effective use of switching attention, it is important to know that attention is different. And accordingly, different ways of switching can be used.
The simplest form of attention that dominates in young children is involuntary. It is called so because a person does not choose where to direct attention, and is often captured by an object. A loud, sudden sound outside the window - and now we have already switched to what is happening there. Involuntary attention is drawn to intense stimuli, new stimuli, or stimuli related to our actual needs. To control involuntary attention, you need to organize the environment accordingly. It should have either intense and vibrant stimuli, or interesting and new, or both. This could be a disco, going to the movies, playing a board game or playing a computer game, your favorite pastime, or something related to delayed desires.
If intense, exciting stimuli are not currently available to you, you can try a change of scenery. If you are indoors, go outside, preferably to the park. Try to notice as much detail around as possible. At the same time, it is good to pay attention to what is unusual for you. If you study nature more often during walks, try to remember the people you meet. If, as a rule, you pay more attention to people, explore the surrounding area, road surface, vegetation, sky, architectural features. Try to memorize as many details as possible, as if you are going to write a story about your walk.
If a walk is not available to you, a reliable source of new and unusual sensations is the body. Close your eyes and examine the entire body with your inner gaze. Stay on vivid sensations, giving yourself time to really feel them. Although here I already use techniques to stimulate voluntary attention.
Voluntary attention is directed where the person considers it necessary to direct it. Switch and hold prSpontaneous attention requires effort. The ability to apply volitional effort has to be trained. Voluntary attention develops in a person as he grows up and is included in society. It was to this form of attention that I suggested that you turn to me by asking questions about other conversations. There are many ways to train voluntary attention and switch it. For example, ball games, especially team games. Many people from childhood know the fun "Yes and no, don't say, don't take black and white." It allows you to train switching, distribution and concentration of attention. Some time ago a wonderful board game "Hello, Bear" appeared, which not only develops attention, but can set a cheerful tone for a friendly party. Also, recent studies claim that the development of voluntary attention and its switchability is facilitated by meditation (Brefczynski-Lewis JA, Lutz A, Schaefer HS, Levinson DB, Davidson RJ. Neural correlates of attentional expertise in long-term meditation practitioners. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences 2007; 104: 11483-11488).
There are a large number of meditation guides in Russian. I like the approach implemented on the site Real Mindfulness realmindfulness.ru
The consequence of the efforts made to realize voluntary attention is its exhaustion. The paradoxical intention method is based in part on this. If you can't get distracted from thinking about the upcoming conversation, concentrate on it as meticulously as possible. Remember all the interlocutors. What do they look like, what color are their hair and eyes, what is their voice, how do they smell? What do you know about their personality traits? If you have a conversation plan with the expected answers of opponents, give yourself the task of replaying the development of events in your head 50 times in a row, without distraction.
When a thought takes us too long and returns attention to itself, it means that it serves some important need or purpose and therefore is included in the person's personality. This is how post-spontaneous attention works. It is it that allows composers to work for hours on their work without being distracted by anything. This form of attention develops when a once voluntary action becomes personally significant, acquires additional meaning. Even this attention can be switched. To do this, you have to admit that the thought you think is not useless. And find the most honest answer to what this thought is for you? Why do you need it? And focus on other ways to achieve this why. The answer isn't always obvious. Often, pesky thoughts allow us to avoid solving problems in the outcome of which we are not sure. Then it is important to answer the question: why do I consider these thoughts “unnecessary”? What do I need to think about now? What for? And why don't I really turn to them?
Finding the answer can be difficult alone. A psychologist will help you figure out the reason for the following thoughts. Analytics work especially well in this direction.psychologists, gestalt therapists and client-centered psychologists. A cognitive-behavioral psychologist or psychotherapist will help you find the most effective way to switch attention and turn it into a habit.
Sometimes obsessive thoughts, such that do not seem to fit into the general train of thought, arise in illogical moments, as well as cause torment to a person by the inability to stop them, can be a symptom of mental illness. Therefore, it will be helpful to consult a psychiatrist or psychotherapist.
Write all memories in a special diary. In general, it is better to clear your head of all memories. Therefore, you need to start writing out, starting today, then yesterday, the day before yesterday, and so gradually free yourself. Castaneda wrote about it.
In general, writing all the memories in a diary really helps. It's only better to write with a pen, not to type.
Read about BSFF technique (by Larry Nimson) - very easy to use and quite workable. Moreover, the principle of its work is good in that it does not remove unnecessary memories / thoughts, but only removes the negative emotions associated with them.
Ie. you will be able to quite calmly discuss events / facts that previously seemed sad / unpleasant / tragic to you without the previous negative.
You will forgive in advance, but your question can easily be altered as follows: "How can I cut off a part of myself that I don't like?"
Absolutely all people have different unpleasant feelings that are closely related to the past. Unfortunately (or fortunately), the past cannot be changed in any way. And if you could, would you really become? Because of the past, especially in places unpleasant, you have become what you are now. You think and perceive yourself and others now just like that, and not otherwise, just because such your thinking and perception grew out of the past.
About clearing the mind. Everett Shostrom (psychotherapist uncle) wrote that for the vast majority of people, the left hand does everything much worse than the right. And if you look from certain sides, then this hand in an amicable way could simply be chopped off. But naturally, no one does this, for one simple reason - the hand is an integral part of you. Whatever it is, it is a part of you, and another such part, worse or better, is not foreseen. But, writes Shostrom, if the attitude regarding the external extremities is quite unambiguous, and no one wants to chop off anything, then with regard to our inner world people for some reason are not particularly shy about chopping off everything right and left.
So, chop off unnecessary thoughts and memories and not worth it. They should not be chopped off, but taken. Try to accept that my parents hit me on the head, not because they are bad, but because they themselves have experienced a lot of troubles. That the struggle with thoughts about a former romantic life partner with whom I separated is not a struggle with thoughts and not with the companion himself, but a struggle with a part in oneself that was born thanks to this companion. And so on.
In words, all this, of course, looks much easier than in reality. People sometimes do not cope with these thoughts and experiences, and form vicious circles. This is when, due to thoughts, it is impossible to carry out any important activity in life, and the failure to carry out this activity, in turn, again leads to disturbing "unnecessary" thoughts. And so one thing leads to another, and then again. This vicious circle is called neurosis.
You should try to treat yourself (and others) not as a robot from which you can detach an extra part, but as a living, complex and whole being. With this attitude, life will become more integral and lively.