There is a unique resource - the Perezhit.ru site collection. In particular, they have an on-line course "Raising Self-Acceptance" at the Love Correspondence School. I have never seen anything like it. The cost of on-line courses is symbolic, and they are composed exclusively of high quality and competently. The courses are so effective that personal consultations with a psychologist are practically not needed. I recommend.
In addition, these sites have courses and articles for psychological assistance to people in difficult life circumstances - the death of loved ones, separation, suicide.
Come to our Live Beauty group on VKontakte (https://vk.com/yourealbeauty). We publish information about people, that everyone is different, stories of self-acceptance, positive photo sessions with different types of figures and appearances, and other body-positive information. Not a book, of course, but we try to collect various materials from the Internet, including foreign ones, and make translations. I think it helps to look at the world from a different angle, to treat people and in particular to yourself with greater understanding.
Try reading Osho Rajneesh, maybe he will help you look at things in a different way. In general, I doubt that books can help with this. They can't me)
Form an adequate self-esteem. To love yourself means accepting yourself as you are, without irrational criticism. In no way do we compare ourselves with others. We strive for our ideal, yes, but without fanaticism. Simple training exercises will help you with this:
Success diary. Every day, we are not lazy and write down why you are a great fellow today. Attention to details, it is not necessary to save kittens from a burning house every day, it is enough to praise yourself even for little things (brushed your teeth at night, read 10 pages of a book, etc.)
"I'm a good boy (girl)"
A short excursion into the basics of transactional analysis is needed here. Three entities live in each of us: a parent (care, custody), a child (emotions, flirting, resentment), an adult (a kind of censor, an equalizer between parent and child). The parent acts in two positions: either he is a critic or, on the contrary, loves unconditionally. And very often our child is depressed by our own criticizing parent. And your task is to become a guardian parent for your child. Exercise:
Take a mirror, bring it below your eye level, you seem to look at yourself in the mirror from top to bottom, and tell yourself to your beloved, unique, most valuable, your inner child, how you love him, what is your most wonderful and good one, all this from the perspective of a parent.
We repeat the same from a bottom-up position, now the mirror is down, from the child's face we speak about what we need. Attention! It is important to hear and understand what your child wants and speak. (Approx. I want your protection, I want your love, I want you not to evaluate me, but to accept me as I am). Side effects: tears, tantrums - this is absolutely normal, it says about the release of emotional clamps.
These exercises help many, the main thing is regularity and will. On average, such exercises are done for 21 days. I have never met literature on this topic, your strength is in yourself. Success to you.
Quite a deep question that sooner or later everyone asks himself in this life. And he hardly finds an answer in the vastness of the network. The paradox is that the people around us see us differently. And in this complex world of subjective assessments and opinions it is rather difficult to hear oneself. Therefore, I will give very few recommendations: - do less self-digging - it depressing. But just do what brings inner peace and self-satisfaction. The more often we are alone with ourselves, the better we hear the inner voice. But this does not mean that you need to completely withdraw and withdraw into yourself. Let those with whom you are really comfortable stay in your circle. - certain affirmations (attitudes) help to hear yourself. Invaluable advice for girls can be found in the book "Love yourself" by Louise Hay. And one more important thing - no one in this life is obliged to anyone, is not attached to anyone and is not like anyone. Everyone has his own path. Good luck))