How does it feel to be in a relationship with someone with Asperger's? Is the syndrome inherited to children?

My girlfriend has Asperger Syndrome and I'll be honest - it's often not easy at all. Before her, I had never communicated with such people, did not know how they behave, how they react, and therefore completely misinterpreted everything she said and did. Because of this, it is very difficult for her to build relationships with people. Yes, people with this syndrome, as mentioned above, really do not understand irony, sarcasm and hints and say what they think. Because of that, my girlfriend's words often sounded like rude and everyone called her rude. I myself often made comments to her on this matter, but she did not mean anything bad and did not want to offend the person when she spoke honestly with him. Roughly speaking, she does not understand well what a sense of tact is and when, for example, you need to keep silent or behave with a person, pretending that he is not at all disgusting to you. For example, in cases when you have to communicate with unpleasant relatives or friends of people close to you. My girlfriend has poorly developed facial expressions and a hard look - many take it for hostility. I myself needed a lot of time to get used to the lack of emotionality and the fact that you need to speak in plain text, and not hint. Even a bold hint does not work. But it taught me a lot - for example, to be honest with yourself and other people and not be afraid to face the truth. People with this syndrome are amazing: they are rational, she always speaks the truth, they do what they see fit, and most importantly, if they get close to someone, you can be one hundred percent sure of the sincerity of their feelings. But it's not at all easy: to be with such a person, because people with Asperger have their own sometimes seemingly very strange "spells", some things that can even irritate: for example, strange fears or strange selectivity (in the same food , for example). What they do often looks really very rude, and it even seems that the person is deliberately doing something to you for evil or trying to quarrel. But this is not the case. Such people are very peaceful. but only with those who are dear to them: for their sake they are ready to do very, very much. Be patient with such people, they may look indifferent on the outside, but in fact they suffer very much from the fact that they are misunderstood and they do not have feelings with anyone. We all often feel each other, that is, we subconsciously guess when to cheer us up, when to say "yes, everything will be ok, friend, don't worry" and so on. And this seems natural to us. And people with Asperger do not have this feeling, but they can learn to react in a certain way to any action. It looks strange when my girlfriend asks what to answer or what to do. From the outside it looks like sarcasm on her part, but I know she is really interested in this.

I have a brother with this syndrome, while he is married and his wife does not even know about it. Perceives symptoms as character traits. Difficulties arise not for those who are next to such a person, but for himself. It is difficult for him to communicate with people, because he does not understand hints, irony, is not capable of non-verbal communication. He says what he thinks and is sure that others are also sincere.