How do you get out / deal with the state of life's impasse, when it seems that you have a lot of opportunities before you, but you do not know where to go and where to start?

I completely surrender to this state. I lie on the floor in despair, without feelings, in complete hopelessness and loss of all the meanings of being. I lose all hope and joy of life. Then he lets go. The brain will not allow you to endlessly suffer without reward. I am laughing. And I act. I am doing the simplest and closest thing that exists. There are no dead ends, there are imaginary paths to someone else's happiness. Give up unnecessary desires, curb your appetite, and you will be happy.

Usually such a dead end arises from one very unpleasant illusion.

It seems to us that all the possibilities are open to us, take whatever you want, any work is yours, any creativity, any person. But there is no motivation for anything - the melancholy is mortal. How can I get motivation?

But this is an illusion.

And in fact, this is what happens. Our brain goes through all this sea of ​​possibilities, and every opportunity is blocked by something. To find a job, you need to send your resume, and you will have to face rejections - and this is unpleasant, I don't want this, so I won't look for a job. To draw, you need to study anatomy, and this is long, difficult and incomprehensible, I have already tried it and it didn’t work out for me - it’s hard, I don’t want to strain, I won’t draw. To make friends or a partner, you have to go to some kind of company - and where it is not clear, all the acquaintances are boring, there is nothing to talk to them about, they are not interested in me and they are not interesting to me either, so I will not look for either friends or a partner. Emotionally, all these situations are experienced as "boring", "do not want", "do not pull", "no desire". But in reality, any opportunity has already faced an obstacle, and the reward for any effort is not guaranteed, and it is not obvious what to do next.

At such a moment, I usually tell myself honestly - it's not "boring" , it doesn't work, I don't know how to do it, I don't want to risk it.

After I honestly admit to myself that all these possibilities are too difficult for me, one of two things happens. In the first case, I honestly give up dreams that are too difficult - not because "there is no motivation", but because it is difficult. In the second, I still dare to try, but I realize that it will turn out much worse and less than I would like.