I have never discouraged smokers from this habit. I tried smoking myself - I was very disappointed, I don't understand what people find in this. Then I pinned higher hopes on a cigarette, but in the end I got zero. And the cigarettes were good. My beloved and my friend smoke. I have never told them anything about it and I will not. If they want, they will leave. They will ask for help - I will give it to them. I also never complained that it was unpleasant for me, so, they say, you have to quit. It is so stupid. But if it gives me some kind of discomfort - I can't stand it, but I must say it. I would smoke e-cigarettes without nicotine on a regular basis.
I did not help a girl, but a young man, but I think there is a difference, if there is, it is in your favor, since the female environment will have a positive or neutral attitude towards the attempts of your companion to quit her addiction. First, I informed a loved one, that I have an extremely negative attitude to this habit, argued why (for example, smell, smack, unpleasant sight of a smoking person, negative example from childhood). Then, arguments went into the course of why it is harmful and bad for him and how important the state of health of a loved one is to you. If all this is clear to your partner, if he wants to be the best for you and generally understands the harm of this habit, then you can move on to the very process of weaning. If not, then you need to either accept or wait until health problems will force your partner to quit (not a fact), or to put an ultimatum, or to part.
Further, if the partner agrees, it is necessary to understand what makes him smoke? What do cigarettes mean to him? In what way and pace will you quit (you will, because your support and help is extremely important here)? For example, smoking environment or stressful work, which is, will complicate the process. If you are near, then you need to "beat your hands" if a person reaches for a cigarette, because this is a habit and is done almost unconsciously. It is advisable to offer an alternative method of relieving stress (eat ice cream, comfort in an embrace). About methods. There are various e-cigarettes, psychological courses and techniques. I haven't tried it, so I can't speak. My young man gradually reduced the number of cigarettes per day, per week, then there was a period when he smoked only "for reasons" - at a barbecue or after a hell of a stressful situation. That is, smoking became conscious, there was no "nicatin starvation" and terrible cravings. And then we finally said goodbye to this habit.
Here it is important to understand that quitting right away is hard for the body both psychologically and physically (the body receives nicotine from the outside, gets used to it, instead of producing itself), not everyone will endure, and even with a gradual weaning, support, help, approval is also needed; it is important for him to see that you appreciate this effort.
Tell us how you managed to quit the addiction of smoking (any nicotine addiction). I would like to hear an answer from people who have felt the full severity of getting rid of this habit.