Thanks for the answers!
It's interesting that I tried to go to the gym myself, and eat right, and support my wife in all endeavors, diets, sports, physical activity, but she's enough for a week - 2 maximum, while during this period a completely not bad result appears, which delights me. But for his wife, it seems to be insignificant, this is, firstly and secondly, she gives herself a little rest, like today I eat a tasty treat or I don't go to the gym, well, all sports and diet are hammered. And all over again, weight is gaining, she herself suffers and does not hate herself for it, but she does not want to do anything either. I'm trying to somehow help, suggest everything is perceived as bayonets, you don't love me and love me as I am and continues to spread rot on myself.
So I don't know what to do here, I want peace and whatever my wife suffered from being overweight.
Start with yourself. Tell them that from this year you decided to take care of your health. So that she cooks only the right food for you. The main thing is to set a good example. She must herself want to change her eating behavior. In the future, invite her to walk for half an hour every evening or walk 10 thousand steps. This is good for your health and will gradually bring you into shape. After a while, start saying that she is losing weight, in volume, even if there will be no dynamics on the scales. Believe me, a woman loves with her ears ... She will begin to do more body movements when you see her dignity, praise, admire. Check it out! More care and attention. Sometimes the weight begins to grow not only because of the extra calories, there are other reasons, psychological.
The problem here is not that she is fat, but that you have built your relationship in such a way that you cannot even tell her directly and honestly about it. And now you have to go all sorts of roundabout ways for any reason. Buy a subscription to a sports club, for her and for yourself. Make her an exercise program, focusing on the muscle groups you need to tidy up.
In order for a wife to listen, she must accept the problem and agree with it, and admit that your husband, no matter how tactfully, hints to you that you have recovered, it’s offensive, whatever one may say.
I don’t know the degree of your adequacy. spouses, but you can periodically try to admire the forms of slender fit girls in films, clips, but do not overdo it. Something like "look, this actress is already 43, and she is in such great shape, this is work on herself, right?" This stimulates me)