Well, first of all, it is worth fighting with the cause, not the effect. Man is a social being. With the development of technology, most of the social sphere went into the network, but not all people were able to move there. Whether we like it or not, we still have to contact people. They "pester" and "touch" everyone. You only react negatively and aggressively because you are under stress. Try to remove it (methods and capabilities are individual for each), and the situation will immediately become an order of magnitude easier. If, after that, the effect of "getting it" still remains - perhaps you should change your place of work / company / field of activity / form of leisure in order to contact as little as possible with those who pester you.
Use the diplomatic technique "informational dialogue". Reduce communication with people who cause you unpleasant emotions to a minimum and communicate with them only to the point. Limit access to yourself as much as possible, both in real life and in virtual life.
When explaining the reasons for refusing to communicate, use a link to real or fictional circumstances that force you to stop communicating.
Success Good mood to you!