Everyone will answer this question in their own way, based on their upbringing and values. But in my opinion, it is important not when, but with whom. It will be very nice (especially for a girl) if this is a loved one with whom you are in a relationship. As for age, I think it's normal for a guy after 14 years, and for a girl after 16. But again, it all depends on the situation, feelings and views of people. And about preparation, if this is not a sudden action with anyone, but with a loved one, then it is better to discuss everything, as mentioned above, and also "bring" each other to the act itself (that is, to see each other without clothes in advance). This will remove stiffness and stiffness.
Maybe I’ll say a banality, but you need to have sex when you want it yourself! Never give in to pressure from people around you. So what if your friend / girlfriend has been having sex for years, it's their choice and maybe even their disappointment.
As for condoms, I agree that they must be bought in advance. And I also think it's absolutely okay to masturbate. The first time is full of excitement and premature discharge of semen. And so decide for yourself when you are ready and enjoy, the first time is not always so bad.
Well, a condom is definitely worth buying before sex, what else to say.
For the first time, it will probably work well with extra lubrication.
For the first time with a girl, forget about the "terrible and terrible first time with a ton of blood and pain." There should be no blood.
The left is an elastic membrane with a hole that stretches, it does not close the entrance to the vagina. With abrupt actions, of course, it can overstrain and there will be pain and blood. But all of this can be avoided (and should be) by acting carefully, consistently, slowly and using a lubricant. For example, you can gradually stretch with your fingers at first. Then the first time will not be discomfort and nervous for both parties.
Dialogue is very important. Talk to your partner, find out what he wants, what is not, what you want or don’t want, in general, set certain rules. In general, having a frank conversation can help relieve tension.
Well, a prelude, of course. Both you and your partner need to feel confident and secure.
P.S. Dialogue during time is also very important, you can coordinate each other's actions, thereby helping. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, to be silent and tolerate, it will definitely not get better from this
The age of sexual consent is only relevant if one of the partners is over 18 and the other under 16. Voluntary sexual relations between persons under the age of 18 are not punishable.
However, any sexual activity against a person under the age of 12 is considered rape or sexual assault, responsibility for which begins at the age of 14.
In any case, according to the law, peers can have sex at any age.