Now it’s not right away to understand whether a girl’s skin is problematic or not, because all this is successfully hidden under a layer of cosmetics. For me, the number of acne does not affect the quality of communication between a person. But to create a family, a companion with skin has no problem, but it still depends on the situation and the person.
I was bullied at school, and more guys than girls, and when in high school problems with the skin began, they just added one more reason ((The girls at school, well, also looked down on me, though they teased me and not only less often. I also had to make a straight bang to hide my forehead, but I always didn’t want to lie flat and fit, she twisted on the sides and bottom, and her head began to get fat quickly and the next day it was terribly sleek. After grade 11, I got rid of the bangs , because it was a vicious circle, the skin still got oily and poured out under it and even more than without it. But since then the complexes have not gone anywhere. At one time I even went into shopaholism when I started to work normally, I thought that fashionable things would distract attention from skin problems. But then I realized that for the most part it was due to stress and compensated for what I wanted to like more. After school, at first there was a lot of attention from men, but even if I met them for half a year There was nothing serious ode or a year from them, as if they had their own goals or changed to a better option. Then all the same I got married at 25, but I still doubt sometimes whether he loves me as I am. Then a son was born, but even after giving birth, the skin problems did not go away. For 4 years while I worked there was a very strong aggravation, I tried everything I could, I spent a lot of money. Now I'm thinking about ROAccutan.
I don't think too much. In my life I have met girls with problem skin and married in a happy marriage, as well as girls with good skin and single ones. In any case, attempts to get to know each other and signs of attention are shown by men to girls with any skin.
Oh yeah, I understand and share your problem. I myself suffered from acne from school, due to age they began to pass, but the trouble is, scars and complexes remained, I think this is for life) PS I also constantly avoided communication at the sight of acquaintances, if in my youth it was possible to understand, then here when a 26 year old guy avoids people and acquaintances, then, mmm, it looks strange and ridiculous))
There was one girl with whom we were friends, who, as it turned out later, is my female counterpart (by nature). She's only 18, so the acne is in full swing. No, imperceptibly. More precisely, sometimes, of course, I glanced (once for a meeting, probably), but no more. But this did not interfere with communication from the word at all. Except for one funny moment, when we are sitting in a pizzeria, a grandmother comes up, pokes her in the face and says: "You dilute soda with your urine and smear it at night." They looked at her like an idiot and continued the conversation, as nothing happened. The answer is no, they don't.
Definitely yes, but not all and not always. I have very problem skin since adolescence, now I'm 30, there are no acne, but there are scars from them on my cheeks, that's where the tin is. And not because I did not follow the skin, I did very much, and I went to cosmetologists-dermatologists, and everything I did. You just can't argue against genetics, it was passed on to me from my father. But this is a preamble. So yes, I had specific cases in adolescence, when young people approached to meet on the street, but after examining my skin they ran closer under various pretexts. This is very offensive, especially during the period of growing up, when there are a lot of complexes, hormones and there is no holistic perception of oneself. There were cases when girlfriends and friends of different degrees of acquaintance told me that I would be a beauty, almost a model, if not for my skin. There were people who discussed my skin behind my back, but so that I could hear. What I have now is the bottom line: I have a husband and a child, there were a sufficient number of gentlemen, I even chose. I consider myself a beautiful young woman, not ideal, but unique, but this feeling came closer to 30. I think that with age, people pay less attention to external flaws, both men and women
Now the main human problems (except for material and related to diseases) are loneliness and unrequited love. From this conclusion: if you are loved, it does not matter what this person looks like, his inner world is important. Manipulators also use this technique, so good luck!
A bit strange question for me. Problem skin is different, and in different places. Obviously this does not decorate either the girl or the guy, but in general it does not play a decisive role. Basically, people who don't care about hygiene have such skin, and nobody likes unkempt people.
I will answer based on my experience.
Since childhood, I have had something like a rash on my arms (up to the forearm) and cheeks, a bunch of tiny pimples. Once I went to a dermatologist, they said that this is a common problem: just the sebaceous glands, sweating does not work quite correctly, and they say it will disappear over the years. Well, naturally, all my childhood and adolescence, so, right up to entering the university, I was wildly complex, it seemed that everyone around was looking at it and horrified (although, to look at them, you need to look closely). Then my wonderful martyr helped me, who weaned me from this complex with his care and love for every part of my body.
Well, now I'm not worried at all. I even think to some extent that these are my raisins. Lots of little raisins on my cheeks and arms;)
Generally speaking, once you love your flaws, they become your advantages;)
I have such a problem. I have psoriasis. And you know, for me it was a tragedy, when I was in school, I was constantly humiliated because of this and called contagious. If I were a guy, I would probably be ashamed to meet such a girl. And so I have no problems with the opposite sex about this disease, I communicate with many and no one even notices it. Now I am undergoing treatment in honey. institute, I am actively being treated.
Why does a girl even need a guy who will be with her because of her appearance?
I, as a man in love with a girl with problem skin, will say that these are trifles. she has very beautiful eyes, a charming smile, a pleasant voice and melodious laughter .... and she is still trying to become a girl with perfect skin ..... but for me she is always beautiful. like this
I myself still sometimes suffer from this, and I just can't understand what the reason is. Long ago I gave up alcohol in any form, eat healthy food and go in for sports. Sugar doesn't really affect that either. And in the end, sometimes it will cover it, but at other times it never happened. Therefore, I perfectly understand the essence of the problem.
I do not know whether the above has influenced my attitude to acne, but the girl with problem skin does not bother me at all. I am repelled only by excess weight and very categorically. And problem skin, no matter how bad it would be - it is curable and not so scary, even if psoriasis, then, as far as I know, it can be treated and it is not so noticeable.
Therefore, I highly recommend girls to practice sports and, as you correctly noted above, do not try to cover up acne with a ton of cosmetics, it only looks worse, and it is harmful for acne.
p.s. Regarding the fight against acne, the most effective thing for me is a tan, whether it is a solarium or the sun, it removes acne like a hand, and those that have not removed are visible on tanned skin very badly. From funds - zinerite, iodine (at night) and hydrogen peroxide.
The answer to this question is the same as to all questions about female appearance - depending on which girl, depending on which man, depending on what goals in communication
If this is a beloved girl, then whether she has plague buboes - spit, it's still the most beautiful.
If it's just a lady with whom you just want to talk - yes, as a dancing partner can push away
Acne is not the worst problem that can be with the skin. Here in our family there are quite a few incurable genetic skin diseases: I have ichthyosis, my brother and father have psoriasis, and other relatives even have skin cancer. And as a person who has suffered with such a disease all his life, I can say that no one perceives you more negatively than you yourself. So that you understand, ichthyosis is such a disease that in the post-Soviet space began to be diagnosed only some 10-15 years ago, before that, one might think that there was no such disease at all, and it could be anything: from rubella to dermatitis. As a child, I remember that it was very difficult at school, since I could not explain to anyone what kind of snow I always leave behind. The skin is constantly dry, constantly peeling, most often, has a very unhealthy color, general discomfort in the form of itching and cracking, after taking a bath and washing hands, it tightens. For care and treatment, several tubes of different creams are spent every week, there are large restrictions in the cosmetic products that can be used. But you understand that apart from that, I have acne, yes. Taken together, this significantly lowers a person's self-esteem. I am a girl, and when, in adulthood, I began to realize that perhaps no guy would want to date someone like me, because no one would want to rip off my clothes in a fit of passion and see something unpleasant there, in the form of falling off layers of skin along with clothes. But not everything is so tragic. I somehow overcame myself and did not even notice that I have a fully-fledged sex life, and I have a relationship, and the guys like me, and even someone is killing me and sits under the windows with a guitar. And all because no one has obvious flaws. Everyone builds their own personality, creates their own appearance. I'm tired of my acne, they cannot be cured or hidden. They pass by themselves, then appear again. And without that not the most beautiful skin, they are just as punishment. But the punishment is for me, not for others. Because they see them in the first minutes of the meeting, then if you manage to shift the attention of the interlocutor to what you say or think - believe me, you will no longer have acne. It is important to remain complete in any case. Think about people who have really serious health problems and tell them about your pimples and how you are suffering. Work on yourself, educate yourself, read, learn new things, just be interesting. As for the guys, guys also have their own complexes, who knows, he can only be happy to meet a girl who has pimples. And as for the relationship - yes, no one cares, if you managed to start them with acne, then just because of acne you will not run out. But if you drive because of them, then it is then possible to lose a partner. Convince yourself and others that you are beautiful and interesting. Your life, if someone is unpleasant - let them have to measure themselves.
Previously, this problem literally haunted me on the heels, now it has become easier, although I spoil a lot when I climb there with my hands, I start to press and tear something off, as a result of which wounds appear that take a long time to heal. But I can only say that this has not influenced my sympathy so far.
From myself, I can say that I don't care what kind of skin a young man has. For a while, attention will be on this, but over time you will get used to it.
Love yourself as you are.
No, they do not repel. Definitely has some influence, but not decisive.
Abundance of abusive words in speech. Once a waitress in my favorite cafe invited me on a date. At the moment when a sweet and very beautiful girl, a future teacher, began to speak like a shoemaker, it became clear that the date was the last. I agree that sometimes it is appropriate and even beneficial to the story, but not through a word and only when it is appropriate
Unkempt is not as important as having a manicure, as the absence of dirt under the nails.
Personally, I am also repelled by large (high) sneakers under a skirt or dress, but this is already a matter of taste. And problem skin is a trifle that you soon stop noticing altogether (again, provided that trying to solve problems).
I have problem skin all my life, but I never had problems with the guys because of this, I came across such guys who perfectly understood that this was fixable and simply did not notice them
It can be added to the previous answers that the assessment largely depends on the owners of problem skin. It so happens that a person closes in, slouches, looks away at a meeting, trying to attract less attention - you immediately feel that he is shy and this makes him embarrassed, even if he did not notice acne. When a person does not give a damn about the problem, the most important thing is that he feels confident, then there is no emphasis on acne, whatever the degree of complications, it will in any case be assessed much easier, if it does not avoid the assessment at all.
For girls, I can give a little advice, nurtured by my own bitter experience at the age of 16 - do not try to cover up all the flaws with foundation, acne will still be visible, as well as how you tried in vain to hide them: if you apply cream or concealer on your face - the layer should be even and even, even if you want to grease the pimple so that it is not visible. Believe me, it will be visible only if you are not a professional makeup artist with a palette ready with:
may repulse someone, but I had no problems with male attention with problem skin. for some reason, many showed sympathy, although I was terribly worried about my acne and post-acne.
now everything is fine and nothing on the part of men has changed much.
Thank you, because you love us pimply, shaggy, sleepy, pampered and others))
People are different. Someone turns up their nose, while others do not notice. Such small nuances do not make a girl unsightly. Beauty is a subjective assessment. Yes, this is striking, but is it so important? Love yourself as you are and others will love you too. All of this is nothing compared to real problems. :)
Well, of course, if there are a few small red dots on the face, this is not a terrible problem, but if there is severe acne? And how not to look after her, zero sense? What do you think? What does this have to do with hygiene? It is correctly said above that "they are greeted by their clothes," this is so. People always look at your face, and you just stand there and don't know where to go, because you don't even want to look in your eyes. Many young people look at this with disgust, why a girl who has a scary face? Only a few step over this and do not pay attention, although there are only a few. In fact, if a person is very charming, regardless of his appearance, people forget about such shortcomings. But some are not afraid to reproach people suffering from this problem for having a problem face
P.S. thank you for humiliating and lowering your already low self-esteem
This is the level of sexism! as much funny)
why didn’t they ask if young people in their 30s who look 45, with a belly and pimples not only on their faces, repulse girls? unable to take care of themselves and look good?
Personally, I am absolutely not repelled.
It will only repel me if the problem skin is caused by uncleanliness, etc.
This, of course, is a problem that is worth solving (you cannot forget about your health), but a person in my eyes will not get worse.
As a girl struggling with acne and all derivatives, I can say that it depends on a particular person. Some will understand that this is a problem and it is already difficult for you to live with it, and some will come up and do not hesitate to remind you of your acne once again. In the latter, as my experience has shown, intelligence and good manners are not their strongest points. They need to pay with the same coin so that they don't have relapses))))
as a girl who has been fighting acne all her life (now it's better, of course), I can say that it was a problem for me. I had such a thing that seeing my acquaintances from afar, especially in the daytime, I rushed like a mad doe along roundabout routes. It's a shame. It's a shame because bad skin is kind of a sign that you are taking bad care of yourself. You will not prove that you are spending a lot of time and money on this problem, but there is no result. It happens that you talk to a person and realize that he is not looking at you, but looking at his face. Once I was standing in line in a store and three younger guys were standing behind me, one of them said "how cute", and the one who was standing on the side "yes, just pimplying!" everything is fine with you. " In short, the problem of bad skin is hard.)
My girlfriend has this problem. She is very beautiful and charming, and, you know, this problem exists only for herself. A bunch of different tried-and-true tools and methods, wasted nerves, while I and everyone who knows her does not notice these stupid little things. What can you say about small red dots on your face when there are huge blue, like the ocean, eyes, a beautiful smile and real human kindness?
It all depends on the man. If a man is used to the fact that there are only "the most beautiful" ladies in his environment, then he will be unpleasant. If a man is accustomed to the usual environment, then he may be neutral about it, because no one is immune from this. I myself have a problem face, I have been struggling with this for about 3-4 years, bypassed all the doctors, passed a bunch of tests, make masks and take care of the skin, but there is not much sense. I don't pay attention to the problem skin of girls, because it is stupid to think that acne is due to dirt and not washing.
I completely agree with the author above. I have a friend, she has lichen on her forearm and mycosis develops on her hands. She also works as a cashier and, accordingly, is constantly under the attention of people. And there are different ones, someone will not pay attention, but there are those who will ask, etc. So, she told me how her relationship with the guys develops "There are d @ beels who immediately say, FOO WHAT IS YOU HAVE, OR DO NOT TIP ME, etc." Well, I don't pay attention to it at all, but after contacting her (shaking hands, passing objects), I immediately wash my hands, who knows what mycosis is, he will understand. This is all about being polite people and taking care of yourself. All to you good, good mood and health.
Everyone is different. All the guys I have met have missed my teenage acne. Or they pretended not to notice. At least they didn't exactly tell me about them. My beloved treats them loyally, and it cannot be otherwise - I cannot influence them, my age is that. I tried a bunch of different gels and creams - nothing happened.
If the skin looks in poor condition and it is clear that the girl does not care for her, does not try to improve her appearance in any way, making at least banal masks, then an unkempt look will repel everyone, not just men (although taking care of herself or not, this is of course a purely personal matter). If a girl takes care of her skin, it will be visible almost always, and therefore will focus much less on this problem.
And, if your problems repel a certain man, then maybe it's for the better, because why do you need a person who looks only at your image, but not deeper.
Take care of yourself , love yourself, and do not pay attention to men who are "repulsed" by such a problem.
Let's not be honest, we "meet a person by their clothes". It is by external factors that we make up the primary opinion about a person. But let's not forget that looks can be deceiving.
Men are different. Some will look away from the girl with problem skin with open disgust. Some will politely try not to pay attention to such defects, so as not to offend the girl. But only a few will be able to step over this primary negative impression and close their eyes to it in an attempt to learn the inner world of a person.