A question for psychologists: can you force yourself to love something? For example, a work you don't like or a gym? Precisely to love, not to develop discipline?

Yes, Katya, she doesn't like going to the gym. I get tired there, sweat, it’s hard and lazy for me, but I want a beautiful body, so I’ll continue to do what I don’t like.
Katya says. Film Katya has a friend Masha.
Masha also wants a beautiful body.
And Masha likes that in the gym she cleans her body and then harmful elements come out, Masha feels how her body lives and works in the gym, and this brings her pleasure.
Which of the two girls will achieve better results?
Your love for everything is relative, in order to change your attitude to something, you need to look at it from a different angle.

For myself, I can say that no. If you don't like the job, then trying to find the pros bring only a short-term effect. You have lived and formed as a person for more than 20 years, you cannot easily remake yourself. It's just that people usually quietly endure, because they "have to", but cannot bring themselves to love what they don't love.

I think to force - no. Because violence causes resistance. But if you remove the special actions for organizing love, then a shift can occur.

Love is generally a semantic experience. Those. different people give it different meanings. Experiences of love are accordingly also different. Common to me seems to be pleasure and satisfaction from contact. It doesn't matter, with a person, with a meal or with a cardio jogging. This occurs when the desired needs are satisfied. Needs are important to notice. What do you satisfy at work or at the gym? You can choose what to go there for. Money, career, employment, communication, because you need, development, so as not to sit at home, please your parents? Add your own variation. If in any of them you find excitement for yourself, then perhaps this is that motivation. To do this in order to ..... there is a chance to get pleasure, and upon completion and satisfaction. Just do not tackle everything at once, not by running, not through the need, but slowly, selectively, with stops to digest the result and get and understand the experience, learn it. Because it's your choice.

If you have no choice not to go to work or go to the gym, you can choose what to go there for. It is important that it is your choice and your excitement. And then the psyche will put everything in a box. Choice-respect for one's choice-pleasure from the process-regularity of contact-intermediate results-satisfaction-dopamine-want more)

It seems to me that not. You can pump yourself up a lot in the matter of sports, for example, so that it will become a habit and you will begin to say what you like, but to fall in love with an unloved occupation, I really doubt that it will work out.

Another question that we have to sometimes do something that, at least, does not bring pleasure, and in this case it is about building the right motivation that will help you do this "something" without much violence yourself

I think the answers are already in the question. Make yourself fall in love with the unloved.

Attitudes can be changed, but limited. If you are an accountant and want to paint pictures, then you will not be able to remake yourself. Just break it.

But with physical exercise it is quite possible. You need to understand with motivation and choose activities that you like. Group yoga or rocking with a trainer? Maybe jogging in the morning? Discipline is needed here. Your body will never love to waste energy. But over time, the body will sit down on joyful hormones and it will become easier to practice.

I try to be neutral about my work. I go to the office with a clear mindset: “For me, work is just a way of earning money, and beyond its walls a wonderful world and new impressions await me”. Do your job clearly and without emotion, because it is much better than being upset that you have to do it.

It seems like people feel love, not things or actions, as for being interested in something, incentives play an important role here, if you want to eat, work, if you want to get attention, go to the gym. And the person himself is very lazy and hardly anyone likes to spend time at work or at the gym, instead of relaxing or eating something tasty.