Good afternoon! I would like to tell my story ...
16 years ago, just like you, I got pregnant from a guy whom I considered completely "my boyfriend". We met for 4 years. There were also quarrels (however, like everyone else), but in general they lived in perfect harmony. And so I inform him about the pregnancy. In response, silence. After sitting, after a pause, he gets ready and goes home. The last words I heard were: "Call you." It was 16 years ago)
I don’t argue, I’m proud and I haven’t called during my entire pregnancy, etc. We have many mutual friends, but he never showed his desire to know anything about the child. Then I gave birth. There was a difficult birth, but it's all in the past. At that time I was not really, maybe I wanted a child, because I wanted to lead a normal life, not burdened with worries about someone else. But maternal instinct takes its toll. And literally a week later, I could no longer imagine my life without this little "ball of happiness" - a spilled little copy of the former.
And now 16 years have passed. My son grew up to be a wonderful, handsome, smart guy and without a father.
I don't know how old you are, but if you have a normal family, there is an opportunity to raise a baby, do not have an abortion. It is such a happiness to have your own, dear. And most importantly, time flies terribly fast. I constantly adjusted the time: when will my son go? When will he say the word? When will he eat himself? and so on, and so on, and so on. And now I would give anything to make him small again and ride in a stroller, because it was the most wonderful time.
"Little kids - little trouble" ...
Sorry that I wrote so much, but believe me, children are not as scary and troublesome as we think)))
An abortion may end up with no further children. The guy must be told, perhaps he will say to leave the child. You may live for a little while, but in the future there will still be no life with this person (since now you don't understand what). In the future, you will find your own person. You are neither the first nor the last. This is exactly what happened in my life. I do not regret a single gram that I gave birth. Good luck
Take care of yourself and the baby, he is not guilty of anything! It is better to tell, and be ready for any reaction. If a real man will rejoice with you and accept the child, if a coward, he will refuse, but you will be calm that you did everything so that the child had a father. If you need material, psychological or medical help, now in almost every city there are centers where they help pregnant women in difficult situations. Everything will be fine, hold on!
Give birth to a child, he is alive in your belly, grows and loves you. Now what to think, you had to think before, get married, and then sleep, but since you are in a hurry, then the father has the right to know. Tell him , give birth, raise, do not be afraid of anything, share with him that you have shelter and food and raise him morally.
You are not creating this child, it is not for you to kill him.
If you do not have an abortion, do not tear it to pieces, then a child will be born and it is happiness to be a dad and a mom.
So live and be happy.
If in a bad relationship: show documents -> have an abortion -> notify about an abortion.
In a good relationship: show documents -> discuss an abortion -> according to the situation from the conversation.
In general. Think for yourself, decide for yourself.
Make a sole decision. Who is your ex? A close and dear person? No, I don’t think since he is the former and not the current one. You are not obliged to report to him, consult and listen to his opinion. Your fruit is your decision. There can be no compromises.
Elementary, if only because he will then bite your whole brain in one way or another. And now you obviously have enough worries. So why do you need to burden yourself with unnecessary and tedious fuss at the moment?
Abortion, I repeat, concerns only you and the fetus. Once you decide to do it - do it, do not inform anyone except doctors.